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Gossip is entertaining. I won’t deny that. It can be a way of making connections with people. It can also be really toxic and hurtful. Try and think first – would this gossip be harmful to anyone?

Answering questions at Boston College O’Neill Library

Financially? Sounds likely. Is it the right choice for you? Possibly. I would recommend talking to your advisor and also to the Career Center bit.ly/BC-career

I’m sorry you’re suffering. When the world tries to turn people’s intrinsic worth to extrinsic value, a person’s own sense of self-worth can suffer. I recommend spending time with friends, nature, or whatever recharges you, and reflect on how you can find a sense of purpose that’s higher than what an organization assigns to your labor and time.


Your boyfriend sounds like he is trying hard, but he probably doesn’t have the training to work with you on this issue. I recommend trying again to work with University Counseling – you could ask for a 15 minute triage phone appointment to see how they can find a way to get you to talk with someone. More info about different appt. options: bit.ly/BCUCSOptions

I’m glad you wrote to me, but I need you to contact someone who isn’t a wall and is in a better position to help you get back on track. You could start with your professors and your academic advisor and be very clear the level of difficulty you are having. University Counseling Services is also a good place to contact bit.ly/BC-counseling.

There is never any good place to kill yourself. I urge you, if you are even considering this, to reach out – you can call 2–3310 and ask to with speak with the Psychological Emergency Clinician during business hours, or call the BCPD at 2-4444 at any time or there are several other contact methods here: bit.ly/EmergencyHelpBC.

Try and figure out the times when you get locked into that cycle and see if you can redirect your attention. Example: if Instagram gets you wound up, maybe dial that back a bit or follow some different people. Also a good idea to spend some time alone, so you get a sense of who you are when other people aren’t around.

I’m a Wall Not an Investment Advisor (IAWNAIA!) Why not join the BC Investment Club (bit.ly/BCInvest) and talk with fellow students with similar interests? We also have books to help you in the HG4000 range (O’Neill Library 4th fl, row 97 and thereabouts.)