
You know, the clock is right over my head and I can’t see it! ?
Answering questions at Boston College O’Neill Library
The desks themselves were taken by Facilities for donation or discard. They were replaced by bigger desks when the space was enlarged. Now more people can enjoy the view of Boston while studying. If you really miss the smaller desks and their configuration, check out the 4th floor overlooking Commonwealth Ave and Maloney Hall.
BC has an Office of Student Outreach & Support that offers LGBTQ+ programs & support: bit.ly/LBGTQBC. Why isn’t a resource center part of their services? If you join your voice with theirs, maybe together you can make a difference.
The key thing is to make sure you are getting enough sleep. I recommend the advice from the Office of Health Promotion (bit.ly/BCOHPZzz). If you’re unusually tired though, please get medical advice (bit.ly/BostonCollegeHealth). I always found participating more in class helped to keep me awake, so you might want to consider that.
I’m so sorry. It sounds like you wear a smile; that can help, to a point, to trick yourself into actually becoming happier. But only to a point. Problem: it also tricks other people into thinking you don’t need support. When, clearly, you do. We all do. Please get it. If not from friends and family, then from someone skilled in listening, like a counselor: bit.ly/BC-counseling.
I can see that working for some people and some subjects, but lots of professions have legal requirements for formal education, so that’s a thing to consider.
It all depends on so many things. What are you expecting from the relationship? What is the other person expecting? Have you been clear with each other? Can you imagine life without their virtues? Can you imagine living with their faults? Are you capable of saying, “I’m sorry, I was wrong”? And have you said it? Are you expecting the other person to change in certain ways, or are you willing to let the other person be their authentic self, and grow and change at their own pace?
I’m sorry you’re in pain… IAAWNAD (I am a wall, not a doctor), so my advice is to set up an appointment with University Health Services (bit.ly/BostonCollegeHealth) so you can get some help and stop worrying.
I’m not in the prediction game. You’ll need to visit one of my cousins: either the magic 8 ball (www.ask8ball.net/) or the doomsday clock (bit.ly/bc-clock ).
Symptoms of depression include a sense of hopelessness and an inability to concentrate or make decisions, so seeking help can be very difficult even if someone wants it. One way to be helpful is to remove or reduce any barriers that may seem overwhelming to someone who is depressed. Be very specific in what you can offer rather than generally asking “How can I help?” Ask them if they would go to an appointment if you make it for them. Ask them if they will go if you go with them.
It’s a horrifying number, all the more so because it’s increasing and avoidable. Here are some charts at the CDC: bit.ly/cdc-overdoses Unfortunately, this problem is so recent in its explosive scope that few universities have yet been able to respond with more robust course offerings. The one course on offer here is through the School of Social Work, which also offers several other courses that touch on substance abuse issues. If you make your concerns known to deans of respective schools, your voice may help them build a case for adding faculty with that specialty.
It’s often hard to wait for something you really want to do. It’ll come. And in the meantime, maybe you’ll have more dream experiences to look forward to.