WHY DOES SHE LIKE BITING ME?

WHY DOES SHE LIKE BITING ME? [Response: SHE IS A VAMPIRE -- or worse -- a cannibal.]
WHY DOES SHE LIKE BITING ME? [Response: SHE IS A VAMPIRE — or worse — a cannibal.]

Could be any number of reasons; vampire or cannibal top the list, for sure. However, is the “she” in question a toddler? Could be teething. A cat? Cats just dig that sort of thing. A grown up woman? It could be physically arousing. Or, if you are being very, very annoying – sometimes you just want to bite someone.

How can I get laid on Valentine’s Day?

How can I get laid on Valentine's Day?
How can I get laid on Valentine’s Day?

I can think of many options, but most of them involve sacrificing your dignity or lying, so that’s the challenge, isn’t it: how to get this to happen discreetly & honestly. I hear chocolates & flowers sometimes help. Something to keep in mind, too, is that it’s not like the day is magical or anything, and was originally about an entirely different kind of love. IOW, no shame in experiencing other kinds of love on Valentine’s Day.

with consent
with consent

Yes, that is certainly a key element in the process.

Why do we not have an LGBTQ+ Resource Center, and why are admin. not educated on LGBTQ+ topics?

Why do we not have an LGBTQ+ Resource Center, and why are admin. not educated on LGBTQ+ topics?
Why do we not have an LGBTQ+ Resource Center, and why are admin. not educated on LGBTQ+ topics?

The Office of the Dean of Students offers “support, education, outreach, programs, and opportunities” for LGBTQ+ according to the brochures just to the left of me. If you see shortcomings or think those offerings are insufficient, please reach out to them. The Dean of Students, Tom Morgan, said: “contact us at 617-552-8574 or stop by Maloney 448.”

why is there a stigma against being a virgin? Who cares? Why is it a big deal?

why is there a stigma against being a virgin? Who cares? Why is it a big deal?
why is there a stigma against being a virgin? Who cares? Why is it a big deal?

Attitudes about sex are complicated everywhere, not just here. Here’s a sampling of some sociological literature, with several different perspectives: bit.ly/bc-virginity. Even our library catalog, which contains a lot from a Church perspective on the subject, still shows a really broad range of approaches and attitudes: bit.ly/bc-virgin1. The Wall is a little baffled also.

What can I tell my boyfriend to do to make me cum?

What can I tell my boyfriend to do to make me cum?
What can I tell my boyfriend to do to make me cum?

He should be listening to you about what you like and what you don’t. Talk about what works for you on your own, or explore together if you don’t know. Dump him if he’s not interested in learning. If you’d like some reading material, the BC Libraries don’t have a great collection on sex instruction, but you can try searching for that in Worldcat (bc.on.worldcat.org) and have it delivered by interlibrary loan, or in the Boston Public Library, where all students are eligible for library cards (bpl.bibliocommons.com).

How can I ask a cute guy in one of my classes if he’s into fisting without coming across as too forward?

How can I ask a cute guy in one of my classes if he's into fisting without coming across as too forward?
How can I ask a cute guy in one of my classes if he’s into fisting without coming across as too forward?

I don’t think there is a reserved way to ask a stranger if they’re into fisting. You could (and probably should) get to know him VERY well before you ask him. Alternatively, you could start with a conversation about more typical sexual interests and then see where his limits are. Whatever approach you take, please respect any indication that he is uncomfortable with the conversation and stop before you cross a line.

From a guy, how do I ask another guy out, especially if I don’t know whether their straight, gay, or bisexual?

From a guy, how do I ask another guy out, especially if I don't know whether their straight, gay, or bisexual?
From a guy, how do I ask another guy out, especially if I don’t know whether their straight, gay, or bisexual?

Before you ask him out, you should know if he is straight, gay or bi. The best way to determine this is to get to know him first. This is true of any potential partner. Ask him to lunch, or study together, or go to a game. When it feels right, tell him you’re gay (or bi). If he’s into you too, he’ll let you know.

Why is university health counseling so useless they can’t even tell me my sexual orientation when I already told them everything

Why is university health counseling so useless they can't even tell me my sexual orientation when I already told them everything
Why is university health counseling so useless they can’t even tell me my sexual orientation when I already told them everything

It sounds like you are pretty frustrated right now. Figuring out your sexual orientation can be a lifelong journey. Only you can determine that, and know that it may change over time. Sexuality is complex and has many forms. Also, in addition to sexual orientation there is personal attraction- you may be attracted to one or several different people, and that may help determine your sexuality or it might not. Sometimes it’s not clearly defined. I suggest you talk with your counselor about this, and staff in the Dean of Students Office who provide support to LGBTQ+ students: bit.ly/BCLGBTQ, campus ministry, or faculty: whoever you feel you can trust.

Is asexuality really a sexual orientation if its primarily self-identification?

Is asexuality really a sexual orientation if its primarily self-identification?
Is asexuality really a sexual orientation if its primarily self-identification?

Self-identification of a sexuality does not delegitimize the sexuality, it is simply the act of selecting a sexuality that best describes one’s sexuality. Sexuality is complex and encompasses a broad spectrum of possibilities, and asexuality exists on that spectrum just like heterosexuality, homosexuality, bisexuality, etc.

How do I get to the LGBTQ Resource Center?

How do I get to the LGBTQ Resource Center?
How do I get to the LGBTQ Resource Center?

While there isn’t a LGBTQ Resource Center on campus, if you head over to Mahoney Hall 448, you can meet with Caroline Davis, Assistant Dean for Student Outreach & Support or the Grad Assistant for LGBTQ+ Student Outreach and Support who works with her. They serve as a hub for resources on campus and are always happy to meet with community members and provide support. To get to Mahoney Hall 448, head to the first floor of O’Neill and walk across the bridge to Mahoney Hall. You will enter on the fourth floor of the building.

Is it okay to be FWB w/ your best friend? lol

Is it okay to be FWB w/ your best friend? lol
Is it okay to be FWB w/ your best friend? lol

Adding a sexual component to your BFship is risky business, whether you are adding it as a component of morphing your friendship into love, or whether it’s just for… convenience. You would need to be very, very sure that s/he was on the same page as you are, even on the subconscious level. I’m not just being a prudish wall when I say I would advise looking for sex within a committed relationship, and not potentially ruining something as sweet as a best friend relationship for brief pleasure.

How would I find a boyfriend as a guy?

How would I find a boyfriend as a guy?
How would I find a boyfriend as a guy?

While there are places and apps that make hooking up easy, they don’t work well for someone trying to find a meaningful same-sex relationship. The best way to find a partner is the same for any gender configuration– join groups that bring together people that share your interests or ask friends to introduce you to potential mates. Above all be casual about the process; it always takes longer than you want. Just remember that there is someone out there who is also looking for you, and you will find each other. You might start with BC resources: bit.ly/BCLGBTQ and even the Commonwealth has a website for LGBTQ youth: bit.ly/MA-lgbtq