Category: Relationships

Hi! Hope this works out! But we’ll never know, because this wall lives and dies by anonymity.

Ask him. Easier said than done, I know. But don’t be afraid to take the risk and be vulnerable with the boy you like!

There’s no obligation to keep loving someone with whom you’ve broken up. It’s admirable to respect them if they’ve earned it. Perhaps you need to enact a ritual of some kind: e.g., get a nice container, put the keepsakes worth saving in it, lock it, and put it away. Or if you’re a more impulsive type, have a little bonfire… though you may later regret disposing of things in such a permanent way. Whatever you do, it sounds like it’s time to close a door, as painful as that may be.

Do you mean board games or video games? I’ve heard they can be a lot of fun. Try joining him. Do you mean mind games? That would be too bad. Being a Wall, I prefer people to be straight-up; I think life is just better when you can trust the important people in your life to be honest and direct.

It happens. And it can be awkward. Maybe they or you are with someone else, there are lots of possible complications. All you can ultimately do is be honest…but remember that your having feelings doesn’t necessarily create an emergency for someone else. Love is a choice, and how you express it is also a choice.

Looks like someone else on the board is looking for a boyfriend, too, which suggests there’s someone for everyone. Can you find a GF for a roommate? IDK. Maybe what you can do is suggest this option: join some clubs with appealing activities. Other folks with the same interests is often a good place to begin.

You should talk about the person you are with. After all, the point of a first date is to get to know each other. Hopefully the other person will also ask you questions, so it feels like a date and not a one-sided interrogation. Above all, have fun!

It seems likely that you have have a much broader experience with the world than he does, and I suspect that plays a large role in the disconnect between you two on this one facet of your relationship. I don’t know how serious you are, or your life situation, but it might do you both some good to explore your native culture together. That could be as simple as scheduling video chats with your friends and family back home for the two of you, or as extravagant as having him come visit you in your home country. Seeing the human side of the “other” is a powerful way to break down privileged views of your own culture. It’s doubtful that he or his family mean any ill will when they take you in as a guest. It’s worth noting that simply by the fact that this is their home country, they will have more institutionalized power and comfort than you. I don’t think that’s right, but the opposite would be true if he were an international student in your country. No matter what, I think it’s important that you’re honest with him about your feelings. If the relationship is important, he will take them to heart. If not, then perhaps you’ve done yourself a favor long term.

Hi, how are you doing?

I hope so, if that’s what you want. You certainly deserve love. For predictions, I recommend talking to my good friend the magic 8-ball. I’m good at information, but not so good at predictions.

You’re awesome! So are friends. I’m happy to be your friend. If you want even more friends, I recommend doing things in groups that interest you, being yourself (because did I mention you’re awesome?), and looking for opportunities to chat. I’ve never been much of a mingling-type, myself (people have called me a wallflower), but I’ve found if I listen carefully & respond thoughtfully, I make friends in spite of my quiet, contemplative nature.

You must be looking for my distant cousin, the Magic 8-Ball (ask8ball.net). I wish you the best of luck in all of your endeavors.