Kudos to you on becoming debt free! One of my helpers tells me that Bogleheads.org is an excellent community for those seeking personal finance related advice.
CASH is KING! Never again getting a credit card. I am debt free! Yeah!
What college should we go to?
There are probably many colleges where you will be happy and will be able to study the subjects that interest you. Your high school guidance office should be able to give you advice and perhaps some tools for decision-making. The College Board (the folks that bring us the SAT) also have a tool you could try: bit.ly/WhatCollege4Me. I’d be thrilled if you joined me here, but only if you determine BC would be the right choice for you!
What dream should I have?
You should have one of the dreams that’s sprouting within you, that perhaps you haven’t yet noticed. But not everyone lives their dreams, and perhaps we aren’t all meant to: some people live their comfort or their pastimes, and that’s fine. Others – unfortunately most in the world – don’t really get a chance to consider their dreams; with luck, they may get to create opportunities for others, such as their children, to dream. That you’re wondering suggests you’ve got an opportunity: may you do with it something that brings you and others joy, peace, and security, or even justice.
Can anyone refer me a job?!
The Career Center (bit.ly/BC-career) They have many resources. set up a time to consult with them. And best wishes!
How do I make friends at work after grad?
College is a great environment for making friends: lots of people with similar life experiences all jumbled together working on a big thing, and bonding over the stress of it. After college, you’ll have to work at it a little harder. Find the people who are interested in what you’re interested in and hang out with them. Invite people for drinks. Don’t get discouraged if it gets harder to schedule, because people will be busier as you get older. And if you can recreate the conditions of sentence 1, or some of them, you’ll always have the chance to make more life-long friends. But, simply, take the first step.
Why do we have to graduate?! :-(
Though I’m always sad to see people go, I’m happy to think they are commencing the rest of their lives, well prepared by their BC education to prosper and make the world more just & peaceful. Best of luck!
Dear Answer Wall, Lately I’ve been wondering if I might be autistic
Thanks for sharing your candid & discerning disclosures. As you know, “autism” describes a broad spectrum of conditions (bit.ly/nimh-autism). You may or may not have a particular set of behaviors that would result in a diagnosis on this spectrum. Whether or not you are diagnosed, setting the process in motion could help you (and a professional) create a treatment plan that could address some of the behaviors you’d like to change, or it could just give you peace of mind to know for certain. You could begin the process either with Counseling Services (bit.ly/bc-counseling) or with your own primary care physician, and ask for a referral for testing. (BTW, your skepticism about online tests sounds healthy.) Whatever you do, I’m sure you’ll find a way to know yourself better.
关山难越,谁悲失路之人 After we cross the difficult mountains, do we recall who was lost
In this well-known quote from the Tang dynasty poet Wang Bo (650—676), he was speaking of himself: I’ve created worthy poems, but they go unappreciated. But in a broader sense, it could also be about anyone whose talents and accomplishments remain in obscurity.
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I’m sorry Columbia College didn’t think you were a match. I have faith that you will find the right place for you. Sometimes what we need from poetry (or any art) is to see our own difficulties reflected back at us, and to learn, “ah, people have always suffered thus. I’m not alone.” I’m glad you found that.
would I be more successful as a stripper than as a BC student?
Although there’s no reason you can’t do both (successfully?) at some point in your life, you may want to consult the knowledgeable folks at the Career Center (bit.ly/BC-career) for some guidance on your career choices. They can discuss the pros and cons of your various possible futures. Though I admit this might be a first for them…
Is it okay to sell out for money?
There are many circumstances where that’s probably OK. Kids are hungry and there’s no other way to feed them? Sure. But pure greed? I wouldn’t advise it. Best to stick as close to your dreams/mission in life as you can, or you’ll probably regret it later on.
Every internship say I am not qualified.
I suggest meeting with someone at the Career Center; perhaps they can suggest certain types of internships, have knowledge of particular companies suited to you, or provide pointers about your resume: bit.ly/BC-career. Good luck! Job searches are often a slog, but I have faith that persistence will pay off.
What’s the best platform to find work exchange opportunities?
Sounds exciting! I’d recommend running this question by the Career Center (bit.ly/BC-career); I bet they have good leads on where to look.
How do I deal with turning 20?
Own it; rejoice in it; experience it. The future is still vast ahead of you, but you’re old enough now to be feeling your independence, making your own decisions, and discovering what a meaningful life is for you. Happy birthday!
Do you ever really feel comfortable with your career choice? I think too often about the “what ifs”, especially because grad school is so expensive.
The reality is that many if not most people will change careers, sometimes multiple times. It’s not a final decision. I’d check in with the Career Center (bit.ly/BC-career) for some validation of your career choice. There will always be “what ifs”. Even I wonder once in a while if I should have studied to be a memorial wall, like my amazing cousin, the Vietnam Veterans Memorial Wall, but I know that I have a valuable role to play here at BC doing my answering.
What is the best way to get into the film industry?
I’d start with a consultation with the BC Career Center (bit.ly/BC-career) – they can surely help you to develop a plan for getting started in your film career, and pointers to getting internships as well.
Why am I in the honors program?
Presumably because you met criteria either when you were admitted to BC (high-school achievement, aptitude test scores, teacher recommendations, and the content and quality of application essays and other writing samples) or later on the basis of instructor recommendations and exceptionally strong academic performance. The coursework prepares you to be a critical thinker thoroughly grounded in a European cultural tradition (bit.ly/BC-honors).
Family or Friends or Career?
I would encourage you not to think of them as zero-sum choices. Balancing friends, family, and career can be very challenging for sure, but all bring a different type of satisfaction into your life. You may find that at different times in your life, one of those needs to take priority over the others – but that will wax and wane throughout life and is part of life’s beauty. Friends and family can support you in your career, and
Whats one last thing I should do as a senior
Attend the commencement ceremony. But before that you might stretch your comfort zone and go to a meeting or event that you would not normally experience. It is sometimes these small personal challenges that make a big difference in your life.
How do I become Insta famous (@mayathefoodie) follow me plz
Becoming Insta famous might seem like a breeze, but it’s hard work! Utilize those hashtags so other like-minded posters can find you on their explore pages, post often (every day) to give followers content that they’ll enjoy, and try to make those posts interesting! Marketing your page using your friends is also an option – see if they’ll post a story or photo telling their followers to follow your page. Collaboration is also a good way to get more followers. As a food insta, you can see if any of the restaurants you frequent will repost your pictures to their pages. You can also see if an account with a larger following will give you a shoutout for a fee. Good luck!
What is the best path towards law school?
Why not schedule an appointment with the Career Center (and they also have drop-in sessions for pre-law students) – they’re experts at this. Here’s their page with details and signup links: http://bit.ly/bcCareerCtrLaw