I don’t think I belong here in BC

I don't think I belong here in BC
I don’t think I belong here in BC

I’m sorry you’re feeling that way – it’s hard to feel like you don’t belong. Depending on your reasons for thinking you don’t belong, you may want to speak to your academic advisor, Advising Center staff (bit.ly/BC-advising), or Counseling Services ( bit.ly/BC-counseling). I hope that they are able to give you a reason to stay, but if you find your best option is to transfer, I wish you all the best!

Who makes the music playlist in Mac?

Who makes the music playlist in Mac?
Who makes the music playlist in Mac?

My assistants have tracked down an answer! Music is played in McElroy during dinner, though some late-night managers also choose to play music. The dinner and late night managers in McElroy get to choose it; they usually stream either a YouTube set list or Pandora. The choice is entirely up to them, as long as it’s appropriate.

Why is BC willing to ignore all of its Jesuit values when dealing with the grad student union?

Why is BC willing to ignore all of its Jesuit values when dealing with the grad student union?
Why is BC willing to ignore all of its Jesuit values when dealing with the grad student union?

That would be a good question to ask Father Leahy. BC’s public position is similar to arguments made by Columbia (bit.ly/bc-columbia) recently. A BC FAQ (bit.ly/bc-unionfaq) addresses questions about Catholic social teaching and other issues from the administration’s perspective. The BC Graduate Student Employees Union addresses those issues this way: bit.ly/bc-grad-union. You might also be interested in the work of the Catholic Labor Network (bit.ly/bc-CLN), and this brief history of Catholic institutions and collective bargaining in America: The Jesuit Review (bit.ly/bc-am).

How would I find a boyfriend as a guy?

How would I find a boyfriend as a guy?
How would I find a boyfriend as a guy?

While there are places and apps that make hooking up easy, they don’t work well for someone trying to find a meaningful same-sex relationship. The best way to find a partner is the same for any gender configuration– join groups that bring together people that share your interests or ask friends to introduce you to potential mates. Above all be casual about the process; it always takes longer than you want. Just remember that there is someone out there who is also looking for you, and you will find each other. You might start with BC resources: bit.ly/BCLGBTQ and even the Commonwealth has a website for LGBTQ youth: bit.ly/MA-lgbtq

Is carrot season over?

Is carrot season over?
Is carrot season over?

Vegetable availability often relies on the region you live in – in the North East, carrots are technically a fall season crop, harvested between late July and mid-December. However, carrots are usually available in shops all year round since farmers are able to protect their crops from frost and harvest them during the winter season as well. Additionally, they can be shipped in from other regions when the local harvest is over. You should be able to find carrots quite easily at your local grocer’s or market.

O que é melhor: churrasco ou feijoada?

O que é melhor: churrasco ou feijoada?
O que é melhor: churrasco ou feijoada?

Well, I have to say I LOVE both. In fact, I am not sure I would choose one over the other. Instead, I would go with a feijoada com churrasco de Chão e farofa… Ah, e uma caipirinha feita com uma boa cachaça… Simplesmente delicioso!

Should I go to Ecuador?/Will my parents let me by Feb 5? Who knows!

Should I go to Ecuador?/Will my parents let me by Feb 5? Who knows!
Should I go to Ecuador?/Will my parents let me by Feb 5? Who knows!

Ecuador sounds like a great adventure. If I weren’t so attached to the Library, I’d book a seat and go with you! I don’t think I know your parents, so in response to your second question, I have to agree… who knows! Just read up on safety and health precautions so you arrive prepared. The U.S. State Department travel site is a great place to start your research. Go to: bit.ly/usdos-ecuador

Why does BCPD claim off campus housing isn’t their territory when we are scared of robberies yet they camp out there on weekends to bust parties?

Why does BCPD claim off campus housing isn't their territory when we are scared of robberies yet they camp out there on weekends to bust parties?
Why does BCPD claim off campus housing isn’t their territory when we are scared of robberies yet they camp out there on weekends to bust parties?

You’ll get some chances to ask BCPD directly: BCPD is planning to carry out a series of “knock & talks” among off-campus dwellings in conjunction with the Boston Police Dept. The first ones are actually tonight (Wednesday, 2/21). That might be a good time to ask about patrols & parties. There will also be a “Police & Pizza” event tomorrow (2/22) at 2150 Comm Ave, 5-7pm: bit.ly/BCPD-pizza-feb22.

Here is some coverage in The Heights about the BCPD/BPD initiatives & outreach about break-ins among off-campus housing: bit.ly/BC-break-ins

How do I ask someone to be my Valentine?

How do I ask someone to be my Valentine?

Think of all the risks, and become more comfortable with them. Then just dive in, and say, “Will you be my valentine?” Some kind of object imbued with human sentiments of romance (chocolates, flowers… or perhaps a book, for bookish types…) might sweeten the deal.

Which is worse? Person A who looked at Person B’s phone w/o his permission Or Person B who actually is doing something Shady and got caught by A? A&B are dating polyamorously

Which is worse? Person A who looked at Person B’s phone w/o his permission Or Person B who actually is doing something Shady and got caught by A? A&B are dating polyamorously

If two people have mutually agreed to be in a polyamorous relationship, then having a relationship with another person isn’t “shady” at all. Although they may have rules about openness and honesty that are being violated. It sounds like at least one person in the relationship isn’t actually comfortable with the polyamory, which is something they may want to discuss. However, if the relationship truly is polyamorous, then snooping would be a violation of trust and privacy. It is possible for both people to be at fault here: Person A for snooping and Person B for cheating (if the relationship isn’t an open one). Both need to take responsibility for their actions if they want the relationship to move past this.

Wall, I don’t want to work at an investment bank, I just want to dance!

Wall, I don't want to work at an investment bank, I just want to dance!
Wall, I don’t want to work at an investment bank, I just want to dance!

There is no need to work in an investment bank if you don’t want to! You should talk to the BC Career Center (bit.ly/BC-career). They can help you to figure out a career path that will let you use your passions. In the meantime, you should also consider joining one of BC’s many dance-related student organizations (bit.ly/BCStudentOrg).

How do I get smaller toes?

How do I get smaller toes?
How do I get smaller toes?

Sorry to say that you can’t make your toes smaller. And please don’t try to. People have crippled themselves trying to make their toes and feet smaller. Give your toes lots of room and enjoy their glorious shape. If anyone makes fun of your toes, you have my permission to give them a (gentle) kick.

Who in all of history has most acutely felt Woe?

Who in all of history has most acutely felt Woe?
Who in all of history has most acutely felt Woe?

I often turn to the OED when I’m curious about the history of a word like “woe” (bit.ly/OED-woe – sign-in required). It’s quite an old word, dating at least back to bronze age proto-Iranian, and appears independently in non-Indo-European languages as well, suggesting its derivation is onomatopoetic, that is, it’s based on the sound of human expressions of sadness & grief. The Yiddish form (“Weh,” as in “Oy Weh!”) probably has more currency now than the English “Woe,” which is a little archaic. In recent history, Jews have good reason to be standouts in acute woe, and yet they’re also standouts in expressions of humor. It’s a mystery. Unfortunately, humankind seems to distribute woe generously, so there is no one group or person who can claim to be the most woeful in all of history.

Why are parking permits so expensive?!? There is no way I could afford one.

Why are parking permits so expensive?!? There is no way I could afford one.
Why are parking permits so expensive?!? There is no way I could afford one.

According to the Wall’s friends at Parking and Transportation, it’s mostly two things. The first is lack of space on campus, which creates a lot more demand than supply. The second is more subtle: prices are partly high to encourage people who can to use other ways to get to campus, like the campus bus system, public transit, bikes, or feet–that makes for a greener campus, a healthier community…but it also helps with the first issue. The walls at T & P are sympathetic, as is this Wall.