Honestly, directly, and as close to when the topic comes up as possible. It won’t get any better if you don’t address it. Also, the longer you sit on whatever it is the more important it becomes to you and the more unfair it will feel to your SO when you do finally bring it up. Here’s a little suggested reading: bit.ly/bc-conflict. Good luck!
Hellish Wednesday again because of procrastination. I never learn.
Acknowledging a problem is the first step to addressing it, so you are on the right track. It is difficult as the semester draws to a close and finals loom … lots of stress and pressure. I don’t know what you’re procrastinating about, but try breaking it down into chunks. Success can lead to more success. Next time do one little thing. And the next time add another. And if you fail or slip, try again. Ask for help. Persevere. I have faith in you! <3
I am sooooo nervous about finals!!! What if I fail? QAQ
I have faith in you! Sign up for tutoring at the Connors Family Learning Center (bit.ly/BC-connors) now – they end tutoring on 12/10, and appointment times fill up… And… even if you were to fail, failing an exam is not failing at life and is not the end of the world (much as it seems so during the college years.) Best of luck!
Is it possible to love two people at once romantically? If so, how do you know which person is right?
It’s possible to be in love with any number of people; the hard part is sustaining plural romantic relationships that are honest and loving. Polyamory isn’t for everyone: the demands on honesty and trust are quite high for all parties. How do you know which is right? A wise woman once said to me: you know it’s the right person when you can’t live without their virtues and can live with their faults.
Is the Market Basket in MA the same as in Bergen County NJ? They have different logos & different styles.
One way to answer questions like this is to look at databases on our Company Information research guide: libguides.bc.edu/companyinfo. They are separate chains. The Massachusetts chain has an amazing history; check out this book: We are Market Basket : the story of the unlikely grassroots movement that saved a beloved business. O’Neill Stacks HF5469.23.U64 M375 2015
Look for them during the exam period! I’ll post dates and times here as soon as I know. You’ll also get early notice of any library events by following us on facebook (facebook.com/bostoncollegelibraries), twitter (@bclibraries), and/or instagram (instagram.com/bclibraries).
Do you mean career-wise, or are you looking for a location at BC? At BC, the front office for prospective students is Admissions, in Devlin Hall. For current students & staff, the front office is Lyons Hall. In a career, it depends on your career path and industry. Start by making an appointment with the Career Center: bit.ly/BC-career
I’m sorry you’ve been having this experience of BC! From what I can tell of the questions BC folks post on me, they range from silly to serious, from minor to major, and from shallow to deep. Give BC people a chance & they might surprise you.
I seem to be the only one still wearing a red bandana on their backpacks, many stopped wearing them after the Red Bandana Game. Am I missing something? –A confused freshman
You’re not confused. You’re honoring Welles Crowther. Maybe everyone else is confused?
WHY IS THERE A HOOKUP CULTURE HERE? IT SEEMS UNFULFILLING AND DANGEROUS (STIs) TO ME.
As a Wall, I am fortunate that the only hookups I have are those for hanging pictures and such on me! More seriously, perhaps this is something that people (probably on most college campuses, not just BC) like to talk about (even if they don’t participate) and that makes it seem prevalent. Or maybe not. This is a difficult issue to address in such a small space. If you search the catalog for “hookup culture” you will find some books that explore the topic. Also check out this article for BC’s “Dating Professor” Kerry Cronin’s take: bit.ly/bc-hookup. The BC Women’s Center offers a “ResTalk” program called “Undressing the Hookup Culture” (see bit.ly/HookupResTalk) and may also have other resources.
What do you think about the musical Chicago? Just watched it, don’t quite get it. Is it satirical? Are the stories true?
Yes and yes: satire, based on true crime stories by a reporter for the Chicago Tribune in 1927. If you’re interested in learning more, read The Girls of Murder City: Fame, Lust, and the Beautiful Killers who Inspired Chicago, by Douglas Perry, (O’Neill Library HV6517 .P475 2010).
Hi! I’m interested in universities’ professors salary, could you please tell me where I can find the stat?
Here’s my go-to for this data: data.chronicle.com. If you are interested in a particular professor at BC, that info isn’t publicly available, because BC is a private university.
You really wanna know? Do I have the library database for you! bit.ly/StatistaSex for all the deets… Also see this 2017 article on Sexual diversity in the United States: bit.ly/PLoSSexualDiversity.
Why won’t the bcguest login work on digital studio computers?
Many of the software packages that are available in the Digital Studio are licensed for BC users only- which means that allowing guests to access them would infringe upon the license agreement. Therefore, everyone who wants to use the Digital Studio computers needs to have BC credentials. The bcguest login is only meant to be used at the approved guest computer- if you need help finding it, ask one of my acolytes- ahem, associates.
Why is it so hard and expensive to eat healthily in America?
It’s more profitable to sell packaged, prepared foods than raw materials, and there’s a market for prepared food because it liberated housewives (and now househusbands as well) from kitchen labor. The trouble is that foods designed to spend time in transit, in warehouses, and on supermarket shelves has to be preserved in some way, which damages the flavor of fresh food, so manufacturers compensate by adding salt, fat, and/or sugars, which I’m told make food more appealing to the mouth, but cause problems elsewhere in the body. I recommend the book Food, Inc.: How Industrial Food is Making us Sicker, Fatter and Poorer — And What You can do About it (O’Neill Library HD9005 .F6582 2009) or the DVD (O’Neill Library 3rd Floor Media HD9005 .F66 2009)