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Answering questions at Boston College O’Neill Library
There’s lots happening! How about cheering on a BC Athletics team? Women’s Basketball plays Duke this Thursday @ 7pm. If you’re into the arts, take a look at the Robsham Theater calendar (https://bit.ly/2HytlAJ). The Vagina Monologues opens February 14. And with 273 student organizations (https://bit.ly/2sPQCnk), there are many options for interesting things on campus. Have fun exploring!
Sometimes for the good, sometimes not. Many times, for no discernible reason at all. There are some who think there is an underlying order that mere mortals can’t perceive, and this gives them solace. There are others who believe there is no underlying order, and that when you understand that, you can let go of suffering. My honest answer: I don’t know.
I am in touch with walls all over campus (library walls are all close cousins), but mainly in academic and administrative buildings. Residence hall walls are notoriously tight-lipped, but that’s as it should be: what they’ve seen, they’ll carry to their graves.
Unfortunately, no. Alumni do not have access to the Agora portal or Canvas courses, except for a brief grace period of a month or two after graduation. If you want to save materials from courses, download them now; don’t wait until just before graduation, because professors often either revise or turn off access to courses shortly after the course is over.
It could be the onset of the Winter Blahs. Experts suggest sleeping a bit more, eating healthy foods and exercise. Or perhaps you have a lot of work to do that isn’t interesting (papers, reading, etc.) In this case, try to find a little time to do something you really enjoy. Having even a small choice in what you do can help lift your spirits. If you feel your lack of interest goes deeper, it could indicate the onset of something more serious. BC Counseling Services can help you determine if this is something you should get help with.
Bapst used to be open 24/5, but a few years ago it became clear that it just wasn’t big enough for all the late-night studiers. Also, Bapst only has one type of acceptable study space: Super Quiet. So, the decision was made to move overnight staff to O’Neill so that more people could study with more variety of study spaces.
You will not like my answer: it depends. It depends on your reason for grad school. To get an advanced degree that opens doors for job opportunities outside academia? Then the timing is based on some mix of practical questions (e.g., cost, loans) and your ambition. To plunge yourself into the study of a question you could spend a lifetime pursuing? Then the timing is based on your readiness to set aside a normal life, and defer ordinary pleasures (security, family, stability) perhaps for a decade or more.
Yes! Campus Counseling Services (http://bit.ly/BCCounselingSvcs) is set up for that, and Campus Ministry offers pastoral counseling if you’re interested in a religious angle on those sorts of conversations.(http://bit.ly/bc-campus-ministry)
No need to apologize. Not knowing means you get to ask a question, and libraries exist for people with questions. And I must say, as the Answer Wall, I especially enjoy people with questions.
Well, my assistants called around campus, and though I don’t have an answer to “why,” I do have a clarification: BC does not offer financial aid to students who are not permanent residents or citizens. This is a decision made at levels higher than, say, the Student Services office, who only carries out policy. Federal financial aid, on the other hand, is only ever available to permanent residents or citizens. If you want to challenge that policy, I suggest garnering support from UGBC and approaching the administration.
The Wall can’t tell how to read the word suffer, so it has a couple of answers. TLDR: Dump them. If you mean “suffer” generally: Directly. Quickly. Trying to soften the blow or wait for a good time tends not to work out all that well. You’re under no obligation to stay somewhere that makes you unhappy. If “suffer” means you feel unwell the answer might be the same–but also consider reaching out to campus Counseling Services (bit.ly/BC-counseling) or Campus Ministry’s pastoral counseling (bit.ly/bc-campus-ministry), depending on what sort of advice you’d like. If you’re feeling unsafe, call BCPD
You should try to bring them along rather than “overcome” them. It is you they most care about, and their understanding and acceptance of your relationship has to start with accepting your LGBTQ identity. The process is easy for some parents and nearly impossible for others, so it is hard for me to say what will work for them. If they are into support groups, PFLAG may be helpful (pflag.org).
Be polite when you ask. Give them plenty of time (at least a couple of weeks if at all possible). Write up a reminder for them of the work you’ve done together. Include the description of what the person or group is looking for in a candidate. Make it as easy as possible for them to do you the favor. (And don’t be totally surprised if they ask you to write a draft of the letter you want, that’s common).
Look no further than BC’s mission statement (http://bit.ly/bc-mission-history), part of which reads: “Boston College remains committed to leading its students on a comprehensive journey of discovery—one that integrates their intellectual, personal, ethical, and religious formation.”
Yes, you really have to. According to the National Institute of Diabetes and Digestive and Kidney Diseases (bit.ly/UNeed2P), acute urinary retention may be life-threatening, and will cause major discomfort. If the question is “Do I have to pee right now?” rather than “do I have to pee… ever?” I’ll leave that up to you!
Maybe tell the boy about your roommate? No, but seriously. Directly, leaving no ambiguity, but kindly, such as: “I had a good time, but it just didn’t seem right for me. You’ll find the right person.” It will be awkward, and somewhat painful for the recipient, but the best course is honesty & clarity.