Author: Answer Wall

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On the one hand, many people are uncomfortable navigating the tricky terrain of a friendship that turns romantic. On the other hand, a romantic relationship with friendship at its base can be a very strong, long-lasting one, with a rare degree of trust and openness. Make the invitation, but give your friend as much room (and time!) as they need to answer, with the knowledge that they may say no. If you give them this freedom and are genuinely willing to accept “no,” it’s unlikely you’ll jeopardize your friendship.

We are always all awash in feelings whether or not we acknowledge them. The key is to be aware of them as they happen, and willing to experience and observe without holding on. A meditation practice can help, as can getting perspective from a conversation with a trusted confidante, which can be a friend, a relative, or even a therapist or counselor. bit.ly/BC-counseling

Hm, humans all need to be listened to and acknowledged. So I listen carefully, and after some mindful reflection, I respond.

Try to build in distance from that person. And stop following your crush so closely on social media–virtual distance is critical. My helpers tell me it is possible to move from the obsession stage to the being very fond of someone stage, but not crushing on them.

I’d suggest forgiving yourself, and recognizing that truly, we could always do more than we have, but that doesn’t mean we’re bad or guilty. Grief is enough to handle without that burden. If it’s eating you up, I’d talk to someone at Counseling Services (bit.ly/BC-counseling)

I concur: you’ve got this. When the tears subside (if only I had a shoulder for you to cry on!), talk it out with an old friend who can be honest with you. What was your part in the way it ended? What was your partner’s part? Don’t punish yourself. It just wasn’t meant to be. Learn about yourself and move on.