The Wall

At this current moment with recency bias: either Maroon or Would’ve, Could’ve, Should’ve. Of all time it’s either ivy or All Too Well (ten minute version) or Cornelia Street

Also a terrific choice from the early days…

Pleased to meet you. I have a good friend named Carole – who is, in fact, a study carrel on Level 4 ?

Oh nice I’m new here. Do you want to meet me!?

I so wish I could facilitate this friendly offer! But alas, I have rules against sharing personal information that would make a contact via Wall very difficult. I do hope you both meet new friends, though!

ResLife offers a page of low-cost possibilities (see: bit.ly/BCLowCostAccomodations) but also email offcampus@bc.edu for advice.

Oh, too many good ones to choose from! One of my helpers suggested taking a deeper look at: Radical Political Economy: From Marx to Anti-Globalization, and Comparative Politics of the Middle East.

Put the lack of communication in context of its consequences, e.g., “You didn’t tell me seeing this movie was the most important thing to you this month, so I thought it was negotiable. It seems like you expect me to just know what you’re thinking or feeling, which sets me up for failure.” You can always ask for better communication. (Others can ask it of you, too.) If you keep asking, and it keeps not happening… it’s also up to you when you’ve had enough. Everyone has flaws. A wise person once said to me about picking a life partner: you know they’re a keeper if you can put up with their flaws and you can’t live without their virtues.

What terrific goals! A lot of this is pure mindset, so it’s a good start that you have the intention. To follow through, how about setting up a peer coaching session with the Center for Student Wellness (bit.ly/BC-wellness-coach) and discuss your goals with them?

Thanks for sharing – I just listened to it and it is very catchy and appealing. I couldn’t help dancing a little (wonder if anyone saw me – walls don’t often get up and dance in a library lobby.) If I had to rate it, I’d give it a solid 8.

Hugs. The Wall understands that this situation is uncomfortable. A good first step in moving forward is that you’re able to acknowledge to yourself that you are hurt, and the situation is awkward. For a short window you may need some distance from “the player” (both physical and virtual). The Wall is hopeful that with time you will be grateful that you learned, in a short window, that this person was not a long-termer for your energy and love. It’s all data collection for traits to look for (and to avoid) in future relationships.

I would suppose the first step would be to talk to practicum advisors Maddie Reed, Kira Patel and Lauren Milo, and Zina Hodge, Associate Director of Field Placement and Partnership Outreach. They’re the ones with contacts in the area. Talk to all of your professors; they might also have contacts in the area, or ideas. It’s also possible that folks on the board of NEPA could provide a lead.

That sounds like a really solid reason to be attracted to someone.

Ask yourself: would I rather live with a lifetime of regret for not telling them, or with the risks that might follow telling them? One of my assistants has more than a few years under their belt, and has very few regrets for doing things that turned out badly, but many for *not* doing things that seemed risky at the time.

Get super organized. Plan a schedule for getting the work done – with breaks – and stick to it. Contact your subject librarian (library.bc.edu/ask-a-librarian/subject-librarians) for advice on your research. Create an outline before you write. Writing also needs time and reflection, though, so consider making sure you leave more time for your next paper.

Well, yes, totally. But not for the lactose intolerant…

College dormitories are peculiarly American (though there are certainly UK universities with dorms). Perhaps the answer can be found in the book Living on Campus: An Architectural History of the American Dormitory, by Carla Yanni: bit.ly/bcl-american-dorm.

Thanks! I’ll alert my helpers. Please note that sometimes replacements take a while because facilties staff are very busy.

I know it’s scary, but tell him. If he’s not in the same place you are, that’s info you need. If he is, awesome, you can get to the really good part. Life is short–don’t spend it in anxious suspense.

Knowing you have the right major can be hard! Here’s an article that may help: https://bit.ly/right-major-11. But keep in mind intro courses might not be a good indicator. Make sure to sign up for a more advanced course (if you have the pre-req’s) with a professor with a good rep before a final judgement. Definitely talk to your advisor, too. And consider visiting the Career Center: bit.ly/BC-career. Hope you find your niche!

Ask them!

You seem nice, I’m sure you deserve it (everybody deserves it).

I love basically all cheese! Cheddar, swiss, goat, brie, muenster, mozzarella! ALL THE CHEESE! My favorite cheese event, though, is the Cooper’s Hill Cheese Rolling and Wake. Google it 🙂

One of my helpers tells me that vegan cheeses have improved in variety and quality and cheesiness in recent years; maybe give them a try?