The Wall

It is anyone’s guess how this will end, but I fear there is very little “win” in most scenarios. I am heartbroken over the destruction and loss of life.

Super disappointing when someone you like doesn’t feel the same way, my sympathy. There are a million possible reasons why two people don’t connect, but zero of them are a judgment of whether you are “enough”. You are fine as you are.

I’m a Wall, and my answer would be simply to be surrounded by as many people as possible that I can support (and get to know!), which means I couldn’t be happier right now. I asked my Library helpers too and they have lots of ideas:

• Good friends
• Even if things seem grim, be optimistic.
• Therapy
• Live with wonder, humility, gratitude, and transparency. Also, love generously and be quick to forgive.
• Laugh often, find moments in the day for reflection.
• Keep your space tidy, learn 5-7 really good recipes, and get outside for at least an hour a day.
• Spend time in the sunshine
• Get out in nature any time you can!
• Long urban walks, screen time limits on apps, send snail mail to loved ones and friends
• Try not to compare yourself to others “When you compare — you lose” (easier said than done in a competitive environment!) Be nice to yourself xo
• eat soup every day and eat fish every week
• Remember that you’re the only person who has to live with you and live your life every day 
• Say yes to lots of things. Push through the moment where you’d rather stay in your pajamas than go to an arts or networking event, or rather stay in a city you know than take that interesting job in a state you’ve never been to. I’ve far more frequently regretted the things I haven’t done than the big changes I’ve leapt into.
• “No legacy is so rich as honesty.” -William Shakespeare, All’s Well That Ends Well, Act III, Scene 5
• Focus on what you need to do and want to do, and don’t worry about what you should.
• Put chips in sandwiches. 
• How to Live : “A world of greed has no more strength / The voice of love has called my name” – yaeow
• Live Authentically – Theran and Williams
• Find something every single day to be happy about, or to love, or to take joy in, or to be grateful for: no matter how small or seemingly mundane it might be. Write down what that thing, or those things, are, so you can look back on them when life gets rough to remind you of what’s good about the world. It sounds cheesy on the surface, but if you make it a daily practice, it really does change your outlook on life for the better.
• Dance like somebody’s watching, otherwise in the privacy of your own home; live each day like it might be your last but probably is not.

Not at all… walls are generally very supportive. Mom and Dad were both overjoyed when I got this gig at Boston College. I’d like to think no parent would be disappointed in their child for not attaining something as chancy as Harvard admission.

2 simple ones: spend more time outdoors, and spend more time with people.

It happens, but very rarely. Libraries are big on patron privacy, so we redact names of individual community members. This is also not a space for speech that’s hurtful or hateful about people or groups of people.

I have never tasted Indian or any other food so I asked my library helpers. These are their favorite Indian Restaurants in Boston (we’re not sure how many of them are frequented by BC students, but maybe you can start a trend!).

• Vaisakhi Indian Kitchen (across from the Sutherland T stop)
  • 4 different library helpers recommended
• Punjab Palace (Allston)
  • 3 different library helpers recommended
• House of Tandoor in Newton! Try the Nepali dishes, esp. Momos (Nepali dumplings).
  • 2 different library helpers recommended
• Surya Indian Kitchen N Caterers
• Veggie Crust
• Little India
• Punjab Cafe in Quincy
• Maharaja in Harvard Square
• India Pavilion @Central Sq. in Cambridge
• Punjabi Dhaba

I am on the fence, but Team Aston Martin will not be.

I’d love to get to know you better, so my selfish answer would be “yes.” Boston College is an amazing place. I can’t judge whether it is the right choice for you. Learn as much as you can and see if your goals align with BC and whether you generally want what BC has to offer.

I do really like this school; the students, the faculty, and the staff… and the glorious libraries!

Because your gut microbial community are breaking down your food and sulfur compounds are a byproduct of that process. The more you know, right?!

If you mean MBTI (Myers-Briggs), I am an ENFJ, but I have helpers who keep me balanced from other types.

Awwwwwww…. (blush)

Well, yellow, green and celeriac (or celery root). But then there’s Cel-Ray, which has a (well-deserved) cult following…

Enjoy yourself, and take your time, unless you don’t want to. Some of the happiest memories of any relationship are from that time.

YES!!! Try Wellness Coaching from the Center for Student Wellness: bit.ly/BC-wellness-coach

There are MANY self-care options that don’t involve drugs, which often come with side-effects that undermine self-care.

I don’t see any prohibitions against skateboards except for electric ones: bit.ly/bc-scooters

You do mean the 25th Annual BC Arts Festival, right? If so, YAY!! bit.ly/bc-arts-fest-2023

Thanks for clarifying! You hear that everyone? Stokes lawn is the place to be the afternoon of April 29!

My cuz, The Magic 8 Ball, says “Reply hazy, try again” – I think you will have to ask him yourself, or bide your time.

Delulu

It’s possible, but no way to know for sure without *yikes* communicating with them.

If your ideal place is both big and small, both university and liberal arts college, and full of people who want to change the world for the better, it might be the place for you!

BC is not everyone’s ideal place, and I hope you find one where you are happy. I will miss you!