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Hi answer wall. I feel lonely.

Hi answer wall. I feel lonely. I'm surrounded by so many people and yet most of the time I feel more alone than ever. Rationally, I know my friends and family care about me, but it doesn't always feel like it. I exist alongside people but not with them. I would like to spend more time with others but I'm afraid of our differences. I will keep trying to change this; I believe that is better than the alternative.
Hi answer wall. I feel lonely. I’m surrounded by so many people and yet most of the time I feel more alone than ever. Rationally, I know my friends and family care about me, but it doesn’t always feel like it. I exist alongside people but not with them. I would like to spend more time with others but I’m afraid of our differences. I will keep trying to change this; I believe that is better than the alternative.

I’m sorry you’re feeling lonely. Here’s something to try: ask friends & family for care. You can ask directly (“I need a hug”) but that can be a challenging thing to do. Here’s a trick: offer a hug to someone, especially if they look a little down. That will help chip away at the separation. Or just offer a kind word: “you’re looking good today,” or “I was just remembering that time we…” If you find it too hard to try reaching out to people this way, I recommend talking to someone about it, for instance, BC’s counseling services: bit.ly/BC-counseling.