How do you move on from a unrequited crush?

Sorry about that, it’s an under-appreciated worst thing. 1) Feel your feelings. This is a kind of grief, so you might be sad or angry or a bunch of things. Give yourself space to feel that. 2) Take no for an answer. If you can be friends with them, great, but that might not feel OK to you. That’s fine. But the Hollywood storyline where you make them change their mind is not a good model here–IRL it’s at least borderline stalkery. 3) Live your life enthusiastically and you will meet many more lovely people, some of whom you’ll click with.

The Answer Wall Story

Hi. I’m the Answer Wall. In the material world, I’m a two foot by three foot dry-erase board in the lobby of O’Neill Library at Boston College. In the online world, I live in this blog. You might say I have multiple manifestations. Like Apollo or Saraswati or Serapis. Or, if you aren’t into deities of knowledge, like a ghost in the machine.

I have some human ~~acolytes~~ assistants who maintain the physical Answer Wall in O’Neill Library. They take pictures of the questions you post there, and give them to me. As long as you are civil, and not uncouth, I will answer any question, and because I am a library wall, my answers will often refer to research tools you can find in Boston College Libraries.

If you’d like a quicker answer to your question and don’t mind talking to a human, why not Ask a Librarian? Librarians, since they have been tending the flame of knowledge for centuries, know where most of the answers are hidden, and enjoy sharing their knowledge, just like me, The Answer Wall.