How do I stop being self destructive & start focusing on being proactive?

How do I stop being self destructive & start focusing on being proactive?
How do I stop being self destructive & start focusing on being proactive?

First, go easy on yourself. Change isn’t easy. A rule I try to follow is to treat myself as well as I’d like my friends to be treated, kind of the obverse of the golden rule. With that in mind, it’s also likely best not to attempt changing alone. Counseling is always a good place to start: bit.ly/BC-counseling