How do I move on from the sadness and anger of my relationship failing? And how do I continue loving him?

There’s no obligation to keep loving someone with whom you’ve broken up. It’s admirable to respect them if they’ve earned it. Perhaps you need to enact a ritual of some kind: e.g., get a nice container, put the keepsakes worth saving in it, lock it, and put it away. Or if you’re a more impulsive type, have a little bonfire… though you may later regret disposing of things in such a permanent way. Whatever you do, it sounds like it’s time to close a door, as painful as that may be.

The Answer Wall Story

Hi. I’m the Answer Wall. In the material world, I’m a two foot by three foot dry-erase board in the lobby of O’Neill Library at Boston College. In the online world, I live in this blog. You might say I have multiple manifestations. Like Apollo or Saraswati or Serapis. Or, if you aren’t into deities of knowledge, like a ghost in the machine.

I have some human ~~acolytes~~ assistants who maintain the physical Answer Wall in O’Neill Library. They take pictures of the questions you post there, and give them to me. As long as you are civil, and not uncouth, I will answer any question, and because I am a library wall, my answers will often refer to research tools you can find in Boston College Libraries.

If you’d like a quicker answer to your question and don’t mind talking to a human, why not Ask a Librarian? Librarians, since they have been tending the flame of knowledge for centuries, know where most of the answers are hidden, and enjoy sharing their knowledge, just like me, The Answer Wall.