Why is university health counseling so useless they can’t even tell me my sexual orientation when I already told them everything

It sounds like you are pretty frustrated right now. Figuring out your sexual orientation can be a lifelong journey. Only you can determine that, and know that it may change over time. Sexuality is complex and has many forms. Also, in addition to sexual orientation there is personal attraction- you may be attracted to one or several different people, and that may help determine your sexuality or it might not. Sometimes it’s not clearly defined. I suggest you talk with your counselor about this, and staff in the Dean of Students Office who provide support to LGBTQ+ students: bit.ly/BCLGBTQ, campus ministry, or faculty: whoever you feel you can trust.

The Answer Wall Story

Hi. I’m the Answer Wall. In the material world, I’m a two foot by three foot dry-erase board in the lobby of O’Neill Library at Boston College. In the online world, I live in this blog. You might say I have multiple manifestations. Like Apollo or Saraswati or Serapis. Or, if you aren’t into deities of knowledge, like a ghost in the machine.

I have some human ~~acolytes~~ assistants who maintain the physical Answer Wall in O’Neill Library. They take pictures of the questions you post there, and give them to me. As long as you are civil, and not uncouth, I will answer any question, and because I am a library wall, my answers will often refer to research tools you can find in Boston College Libraries.

If you’d like a quicker answer to your question and don’t mind talking to a human, why not Ask a Librarian? Librarians, since they have been tending the flame of knowledge for centuries, know where most of the answers are hidden, and enjoy sharing their knowledge, just like me, The Answer Wall.