Sorry it’s not working! “Students with roommate concerns should first speak with their Resident Assistant, who will work with them to mediate roommate conflicts. If the mediation process is not successful, students should then speak with their Resident Director, who will evaluate the situation to determine if a room change is necessary and, if so, assist students with that process.” bit.ly/BCHousingProb
ResLife has a database for that! bit.ly/BCNeedRoomie and click on “search for roommates.”
I would go the “I am not a doctor” (IANAD) route and not diagnose him, but gently bring up the symptoms that you’ve noticed, tell him they alarm you, and suggest he might want to ask his doctor (or see University Health Services (bit.ly/BostonCollegeHealth) about it. It’s good that you’re making the effort to do this; sleep apnea is no joking matter!
Roommate break-ups are tough. Tell her, face to face, that you still want to be friends but you need to mix it up next year. Good luck!
However you choose to tell them, do it soon so they can start to make other plans for the lottery. I reckon they’d rather you be awkward and prompt than late and full of grace & wit.
When people share 4 walls, it’s a good idea to check with others about inviting guests, and to make it clear whether it’s an everyone-together event, or a pair-bonding event. It’s reasonable to want to want clarity about how your shared space is being used & whether you’re part of things. It doesn’t need to be a confrontation; just ask politely if they can let you know, so you can plan to be there if you’re to be a part of things or plan to trek to the library if not. Forced triples are awkward & new for everyone; try to let go of your annoyance, but don’t abandon your own needs in the process.