Answering questions at Boston College O’Neill Library
Are you a student here? There’s nothing wrong with being in love with your school. Or are you applying now? Then I hope that you are accepted and can come show BC all the love. Or are you someone who likes to hang out on campus, but don’t attend or plan to attend? That’s great too. There are many opportunities for members of the larger community to experience the joy of BC and show BC their love!
The age difference seems pretty negligible (though one concern is it might be possible – though highly unlikely – for a freshman to still be below the age of consent).Whether hooking up is a good idea is another question, though. I would recommend the junior and the sophomore/freshman get to know each other better, before deciding on any further action.
Seeing as this post-it was located on the stairwell bannister, perhaps you love the bannister? I *think* the bannister loves you, too. It’s hard to tell. Bannisters & walls speak linguistically unrelated languages. If you meant me, well, (blush) I love you, too. If you meant someone else entirely, I hope the love is requited.
![CAN YOU HELP FALLING IN LOVE? [WITH SOMEONE]](https://library.bc.edu/answerwall/wp-content/uploads/2019/03/aw032019-1.jpg)
The King said he couldn’t help it, so I’m inclined to think nobody can. The King: bit.ly/elvis-cant-help Kina Grannis: bit.ly/kina-cant-help
First know: You are worthy of love, and you deserve love. That you feel that you have not been loved by your parents is heartbreaking. Children should not need to do anything to earn their parents’ love – that’s not how love works. Talking to University Counseling (bit.ly/BC-counseling) may help you find strategies to cope and to find peace.
Lots of angles on this big one — here’s an interpretation from the Buddhist perspective: “Love creates a communion with life. Love expands us, connects us, sweetens us, ennobles us.” Jack Kornfield, The Art of Forgiveness, Lovingkindness, and Peace
The latest release from K-pop girl group TWICE. Watch/listen at bit.ly/twice-whatislove.
Here’s what I said in answer to this in November: “Let’s just get one thing out of the way: It absolutely does NOT mean never having to say you’re sorry, Erich Segal’s Love Story notwithstanding. (For more on the profound interaction we call apology, read Aaron Lazare’s On Apology: BF575 .A75 L39 2004.) There are at least as many dimensions to love as there are words for it in all the world’s languages. In an answer last spring, I pointed out that the ancient Greek word “agape” means love that expects nothing in return: bit.ly/AW-agape. I’ve also pointed out that it’s helpful to recall that love is a verb, and calls you to do things for people: bit.ly/AW-love-feeling.”
Absolutely. And spread it extra thick!
Ah, love… I hear there’s a special day coming up, one on which humans declare their love for each other. Just make sure you don’t miss it! It’s a Wednesday. (But you don’t need to wait until then to tell your inamorato your feelings!)
It’s a really good idea to be open to a broad array of relationships: there are many kinds of love other than romantic. I’ve never really understood the phrase “just friends.” Friends are the ones who have your back for years, perhaps even a lifetime, while most romances, though intense, are temporary. The Greeks counted many types of love: friendship, empathic, erotic, and universal are the ones C.S. Lewis wrote about in The Four Loves. (O’Neill call number BV4639 .L45 1988). A Psychology Today article lists 7: bit.ly/7-types-of-love. May you learn to find the love you need.
