Answering questions at Boston College O’Neill Library
I think this is going to have to be “the one that got away.” BC policy states”the policy prohibits any faculty member, employee, graduate assistant, or undergraduate teaching assistant from engaging in a romantic or sexual relationship, or in any romantic or sexual conduct, with any individual whom they supervise, teach, advise, evaluate, counsel, or coach” http://bit.ly/BCRevConsent
Call, text, skype, write letters. Keep up with each other on social media. Stay busy. Make new friends. And be sad, sometimes, because it’s hard missing your friend. But not all the time.
Friends are not something to squander. You might not want to enter into a serious relationship with him right now, but why not remain friendly and in contact?
If it’s worth it to both of you, you can make it work. It’s not easy, but communicate as much as possible (chat, phone, skype, write sweet long love letters in longhand) and save up for visits as often as possible. It helps to know if there’s an end to the separation in sight.
There’s no right or wrong answer here. If you decide to go ahead with it, there will be lonely times, for sure, but if you feel strongly about the person, it may be worthwhile. Some questions to ask yourself: How much do I want to be in a relationship with this person? Could we find a way to end up living in the same geographic area, and if so, how soon? How willing are we both to give it a try, and end the relationship if long-distance doesn’t work? Best to you, whatever you decide.
