Answering questions at Boston College O’Neill Library
We grow, we change. It’s ok to move on and make new friends. I would give it some time, though, to make sure that you’re just not in a mood where everything is annoying you. And not burn bridges or ghost people. Old friends turn up later on, and that can be a beautful thing.
Mine do too; ridiculously stupid happy. Revel in it!
It’s a matter of doing the “work” necessary to keep in touch – and today, it’s easier than ever. Social media can really help you to at least have an idea what they’re up to and where they are. And let them know maintaining the friendship is important to you. Maybe set up a meeting at a not too distant time in the future, for starters?
Adding a sexual component to your BFship is risky business, whether you are adding it as a component of morphing your friendship into love, or whether it’s just for… convenience. You would need to be very, very sure that s/he was on the same page as you are, even on the subconscious level. I’m not just being a prudish wall when I say I would advise looking for sex within a committed relationship, and not potentially ruining something as sweet as a best friend relationship for brief pleasure.
