Focus on the act more than the self: are you doing something helpful or harmful? Do helpful acts & avoid harmful acts, keep reminding yourself of this, and the rest will follow.

I’ve had the pleasure of meeting more and more students from China over the years; I’ve also heard from many other students coming from other countries, and American students returning home from study abroad. All of this mixing brings new perspectives to home countries and extraordinary possibilities for change.

Although I wish it weren’t the case, racism does persist at Boston College. For an article detailing one Black alumni group’s reflections on race at Boston College, see “The Tenth” https://bit.ly/3ScJnPC. Like The Tenth, many student groups and staff members at Boston College continue to make strides in anti-racist activism today. The student group FACES is a student-run anti-racist organization, and their instagram is @faces.council. Remember that institutional support is available through the Office of Institutional Diversity (https://bit.ly/3TzU6EP). Everyone has a right to feel a sense of belonging here.

I agree with the commenter, that you should be cautious. With such a large age difference, you are subject to a lot of power dynamics that aren’t awesome and may not be as readily apparent to you as to him. Please tread carefully.

Patrick Henry’s principals and aspirations were noteworthy; I wish you good fortune and persistence. (Patrick Henry enslaved people throughout his life, so his commitment to liberty extended only so far. May your commitment to liberty be more capacious than his!)

Sometimes the judgement can feel overwhelming, but please know that there ARE plenty of people here–both queer and otherwise–who will embrace you with open hearts and arms. Building queer community despite hostility from others has always been central to queer resistance. I encourage you to look into the LGBTQ support services offered by Boston College, and consider joining a queer student group! Queer people have as much of a right to be here as anyone else. Keep on being unapologetically yourself–the world is better for it!
Much love,
The Wall (they/them/theirs)

The quirks harm no-one. You should examine behaviors that harm you or people around you.

There’s really no way for you to know what the perfect timing for someone else is. Don’t overthink it, just ask. And be gracious whatever the answer is.

The GOAT? Maybe not, but it’s certainly fair if he’s your favorite artist for now (or forever.) He’s produced an outstanding body of work so far.

I’m a wall; I’m neither religious or non-religious. I can tell you I care so deeply about our BC community – including you. And I feel uplifted by everyone every day. Thank you for being part of this community!

I recommend making an appointment with the Career Center (bit.ly/BC-career). They have guided thousands of BC students with the same question. Also… for most career paths, you don’t have to make a final decision about it right now; changing careers is common.

The US State Department keeps a list of languages by how difficult they tend to be for English speakers to learn: https://bit.ly/bc-language. The best way to learn is more about what’s best for you, and what your goals are. You could take classes at BC. Some people react well to private tutoring. You could try apps like Duolingo or Babbel. The real key is persistence. 15 minutes a day is way better than the same total time once a week.

I think it is a solid plan to dream your dreams all the time, but I think that’s not what you’re asking. Sleep is so important! If you’re tired all the time it’s hard to do anything well. You might try checking out a few of BC’s suggestions about how to sleep better: https://bit.ly/3g6fdQX

Well, as a wall, I don’t wear much make up. But I love when people do what makes them happy! So if you love make up, rock your look!

Please just don’t! Unless there is something truly offensive (and not just in terms of taste), they are entitled to their own choice of decor and your comments pobably won’t be welcome. Lead by example, and do an amazing job on your own room?

I really want to say it’s this one: https://nyti.ms/3rMIbb6. But actually my helpers do a thing with Post-Its stuck to a Word template. The font is Courier, which is absolutely a standard typewriter font.

I’d spend the day here in O’Neill Library, but I’m a wall. If I were a human, I’d take a stroll in the North End for its charming mix of colonial history and Italian treats. Fortify yourself with an affogato at Caffe Vittoria.

Thank you so much for coming back to visit me! Makes my day! ❤️

I got these for free – what do you think?

The films are at the O’Neill circulation desk. The copies of the book series at O’Neill are all out. The theology and ministry library on the Brighton campus has a copy, though Fellowship of the Ring (book 1) is checked out and due back on Oct 22.