Answering questions at Boston College O’Neill Library
If you don’t get into your top college… you will be just fine. I do not believe there is only one “right” college for any given student, nor that a high school student can necessarily know what a college will be like once they enroll (even with a lot of research.) So much of the college experience is what you make of it and how you take advantage of the opportunities available. Wishing you joy and learning wherever you land!
The Antarctic blackfin icefish! Did you know they don’t have hemoglobin nor do they have red blood cells?! While it helps that cold water holds more disolved oxygen than warm water, they also have important adaptations to get O2 to their tissues. I like to think this being one of my favorite animals means I care about the planet and want to preserve the many unique and diverse habitats that house all kinds of amazing life forms.
You can do this! You might want to seek out a less distracting environment for study ; there are some great spots here in O’Neill, though perhaps being surrounded by books is a distraction, too. I also recommend academic coaching from the Coinnors Family Learning Center (bit.ly/BC-connors); they can help with organizational and study skills.
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Boston College hosts rental listings: https://bit.ly/bc-off-campus. So does Harvard: https://bit.ly/harvard-off-campus. If those are too $$$ and you’re up for a challenge, I would also recommend looking for apartments or rooms advertised on craigslist: https://boston.craigslist.org. Be aware that many ads are posted by agents who expect a fee often of one-month’s rent equivalent, and that landlords often expect a first payment of first and last month’s rent and security deposit. As a wall, I’m not happy that many walls are priced out of range of many humans, but landlords and agents aren’t listening to the walls.
You never need to explain your food preferences to anyone, because that’s what they are, preferences. The thing with birthdays is that people want to do something nice for you, so give them something other than sweets to do for you. Maybe post an Amazon wishlist or make some suggestions for gifts you’d like. Definitely write up your own menu for what you’d like to eat.
Being a human mother carries with it an extraordinary debt of obligation & care. Though you feel the bond deeply, it might not suit most people to be called “mommy” when they aren’t your mother. I recommend finding some other way to express your attachment that doesn’t put someone in the uncomfortable position of failing to fulfil the obligations of a role they didn’t choose.
I asked all of my library helpers and their colleagues and they made these suggestions:
If the dreams are having a negative effect on your waking life, I would suggest you talk to someone (other than a wall). Moving on from being hurt is very challenging, but there are strategies you might find effective. University Counseling might be a good place to start (bit.ly/BC-counseling). Wishing you peace and happy dreams!
Hi! Did you wander over from Tufts? https://bit.ly/bc-jumbo
You’re in a challenging situation, and I have faith that with guidance and support you’ll get through it and thrive as your authentic self. Many people struggle with faith; here are some stories of very committed Catholics whose identity and place in the church are at odds. I recommend seeking counseling with someone who has worked with lgbtq issues around coming out. If you’re at BC, contact Caroline Davis at the Office of Student Outreach & Support: caroline.davis.2@bc.edu. If not, find support through The Trevor Project: thetrevorproject.org/get-help/. I wish you happiness, health, safety, and peace.
Sharing important, meaningful, and personal information about yourself to your loved ones can be incredibly daunting. I think practicing what you want to say with a trusted friend or therapist would be a really good thing to do. Also, you may want to map out how you would respond given different reactions you receive – again this is something a trusted friend or therapist could help with.
It depends partly on whether or not the step-parent legally adopts the child; if they do, then the child is legally indistinguishable from a biological child. It also depends on state law, which varies. Woody Allen famously married his stepdaughter; I’m not sure how he worked out the legality. Social acceptance is another issue entirely, as are the emotional impacts on all parties. In other words, “it’s complicated” means that if someone wants to navigate this path with minimal harm, it will take a lot of work. Someone would need to consult with a wide range of services to do it well: family law, couple and individual counseling, and probably a licensed social worker, all of whom may refer involved parties to additional services.
A counselor (bit.ly/BC-counseling) should be able to help you explore both why you weight others’ words too heavily, and help practice strategies for letting go. One of my helpers describes it as turning up the volume of positive self-talk enough that it drowns out the excess criticism they internalize.
Although my Mom and Dad are walls on the North Shore and Manhattan, respectively, the idea for me here at Boston College Libraries came from…. another Wall! (bit.ly/FamousBCWalls). I am delighted you find me a romantic idea, and I love you too, in a platonic, wallish way.
¿Cómo puedo encontrar el amor de mi vida? [Response: ¿Puedo practicar español contigo?]
Pregunté a mis ayudantes cómo habían encontrado el amor de su vida. Las respuestas fueron dulces, aleatorias y ridículas. ¡Solo sigue viviendo! Y la otra pregunta – ¿quieres practicar conmigo o con lo de la primera pregunta? De todas maneras te recomiendo BC Language Lab (bit.ly/BostonCollegeLL)
I will chat with some Morrissey walls and get back to you as soon as I have more news.
The walls of Morrissey told me that latin honors are calculated by Student Services at the time of graduation, and for an internal transfer, they cover the entire time at BC, whether you were in Lynch or MCAS. Keep up the good work!
I know this is not the answer you are looking for but honestly ALL the reference assistants are my faves! ❤️❤️❤️
So, I (the Wall) personally reside in Chestnut Hill (in Newton), MA. Our campus essentially sits on sections of Newton and Boston. However, if you wanted to connect with BC folks in California, there are robust alumni groups located everywhere that are a quick google search away!
Don’t take anyone else’s measure of success; only you get to define what is meaningful in your own life. Spend some serious time reflecting on what your goals are, and then you will have a better sense of how far you have come and where you need to work to achieve your own definition of success.
