A wise human once told me that motivation comes from “success at meaningful tasks.” What often gets lost in the shuffle is the meaningful part. I recommend finding something small & relatively easy but meaningful (to you) that you can commit yourself to doing daily, e.g. a gratitude list, picking up litter, saying something supportive to someone… . I think you’ll find after a few weeks of this that you’ll strengthen connections to your values.

This is still information you can have, however it has moved from the screens to our website! On the Library website (library.bc.edu/), click HOURS on the top right and you will see a link for “How crowded is O’Neill right now?”

First, recognize that imposter syndrome affects many people–probably even people you respect and admire. Next, ask yourself: where do you think these feelings began for you personally? Opening up to a friend, mentor, or therapist about your self-doubt can help you gain more perspective about your situation. Practice writing down positive feedback you’ve received and try to let yourself believe it. Over time, talking about these feelings and practicing self-compassion will make it easier for you to challenge harsh beliefs about yourself. Remember–you didn’t make it this far on luck alone. I believe in you!

While I do speak six languages, alas, I am a wall, and therefore unable to attend live theater performances. I’ve heard that tickets are sold out anyway, but hope everyone breaks a leg! We always knew you were a winner!

You can (and should!) voice your wants and needs. But be mindful of your words. (“Deserve” sounds ready for resentment.) Have a conversation about what you want and how not getting it makes you feel. Someone might not know what you want, or if they know, might not know how you feel about it, or if they know and aren’t providing, perhaps it makes them uncomfortable in some way. There are many possibilities, and you will both learn and grow by having a conversation.

While some might say Bapst is a little stone-faced, I have always found Bapst warm and welcoming once it opens up and lets you inside. And even though people say Bapst is the pretty one, I’m not the least bit jealous.

It’s very easy to find out (but I myself cannot discern the answer through your handwriting…) You can make an appointment at University Health Services (2-3225) for a free test or they are available at low cost in drug stores and supermarkets.

We’re both alive. Isn’t it amazing? Life is such a remarkable source of questions, and I live for questions!

Only you know which risk you want to take: don’t tell him and risk having no future relationship with him or do tell him and risk rejection. You could start by making contact gently and see what vibes you get, and go on from there.

Homesick because “I’m mean because I grew up in New England” is an entire mood.

Yes I am! The O’Neill Lobby Door and I have been in a committed relationship for a while now… and love is grand ❤️❤️❤️

One of the things I love most about BC Libraries is that we welcome people from all over. I’m so happy you want to be my friend! Come visit me often. ❤️

Given the quantity of songs, poems, paintings, sculptures, novels, films, and academic studies & books in a wide variety of fields, I think I’d have to say: both, and nobody knows quite where the balance lies. Some subject terms to try in a library search: interpersonal relations, attachment behavior, intimacy, love, desire… just imagine how many books representing how many perspectives there are!

The best thing you can do for an old friend is to take the first step to making the meeting possible. Perhaps on parting you felt what this poem by Du Fu, a Chinese poet, expresses:

A Toast for Men Yun-Ch’ing
BY DU FU
TRANSLATED BY FLORENCE AYSCOUGH
Illimitable happiness,
But grief for our white heads.
We love the long watches of the night, the red candle.
It would be difficult to have too much of meeting,
Let us not be in hurry to talk of separation.
But because the Heaven River will sink,
We had better empty the wine-cups.
To-morrow, at bright dawn, the world’s business will entangle us.
We brush away our tears,
We go—East and West.

YES! Lynch Alumni Rock!

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I believe in you!

I highly recommend bookmarking the BC Events Calendar, events.bc.edu, which is chock full of free events, such as lectures and readings in the Lowell Series. Also: club sports, clubs, and all the books & DVD’s at O’Neill Library. There are also a number of off campus things which are free for BC students, such as tickets to the Boston Museum of Fine Arts, the Isabella Stewart Gardner Museum, the Harvard Museum of Natural History, and the Peabody Museum of Archaeology and Ethnology. More details: bit.ly/BC-mus-passes.

I expect it is due to 1) living in a home here in O’Neill that is full of books, and 2) daily listening to the vibrant intellectual conversations (in so many different languages!) as people pass through the lobby.

What springs to mind (because I’m kind of an old wall) is Gilligan & Ginger, but if you don’t like that, here are 30 more ideas: https://bit.ly/duo-red.