That sounds like a really solid reason to be attracted to someone.

Ask yourself: would I rather live with a lifetime of regret for not telling them, or with the risks that might follow telling them? One of my assistants has more than a few years under their belt, and has very few regrets for doing things that turned out badly, but many for *not* doing things that seemed risky at the time.

Get super organized. Plan a schedule for getting the work done – with breaks – and stick to it. Contact your subject librarian (library.bc.edu/ask-a-librarian/subject-librarians) for advice on your research. Create an outline before you write. Writing also needs time and reflection, though, so consider making sure you leave more time for your next paper.

Well, yes, totally. But not for the lactose intolerant…

College dormitories are peculiarly American (though there are certainly UK universities with dorms). Perhaps the answer can be found in the book Living on Campus: An Architectural History of the American Dormitory, by Carla Yanni: bit.ly/bcl-american-dorm.

Thanks! I’ll alert my helpers. Please note that sometimes replacements take a while because facilties staff are very busy.

I know it’s scary, but tell him. If he’s not in the same place you are, that’s info you need. If he is, awesome, you can get to the really good part. Life is short–don’t spend it in anxious suspense.

Knowing you have the right major can be hard! Here’s an article that may help: https://bit.ly/right-major-11. But keep in mind intro courses might not be a good indicator. Make sure to sign up for a more advanced course (if you have the pre-req’s) with a professor with a good rep before a final judgement. Definitely talk to your advisor, too. And consider visiting the Career Center: bit.ly/BC-career. Hope you find your niche!

Ask them!

You seem nice, I’m sure you deserve it (everybody deserves it).

I love basically all cheese! Cheddar, swiss, goat, brie, muenster, mozzarella! ALL THE CHEESE! My favorite cheese event, though, is the Cooper’s Hill Cheese Rolling and Wake. Google it 🙂

One of my helpers tells me that vegan cheeses have improved in variety and quality and cheesiness in recent years; maybe give them a try?

I would say that once you dip the grilled cheese, the soup exists as a duality of both soup and sauce. Which in no way diminishes its deliciousness.

Give yourself time to grieve, time to be angry, time to be yourself outside of a relationship. Hang out with friends. Have the foods you like. Do some of the things your ex wasn’t into. Five years is longer than lots of marriages, so don’t expect it to be like flipping a switch. Some people can do that, others can’t. Take care of yourself, and best wishes.

Keep in mind that a) English is remarkably difficult, owing to irregular spellings, thousands of words derived from other languages, and speech full of contractions & idioms that don’t necessarily appear in standard written English, and b) those native speakers probably don’t have native fluency in another language. Learning a language is all about forging ahead through errors. Please keep making errors! It’s how you’ll improve. (BTW… I think you might have meant “bungling,” not “bubbling,” but I really like the sound of bubbling!)

Plan it out into manageable chunks of time, and create rewards for getting through each step. It could be checking social (_for a set period of time, like 5 minutes_) or even a tasty treat. Get up and stretch even if you don’t get outdoors. Getting outdoors even for a few minutes can really invigorate you, so consider it!

Imagine yourself at 60, distracted for a moment from work or grandchildren by something that reminds you of that guy you were with briefly in your youth. For a few minutes you’re lost in a reverie, and then a grandchild’s laughter brings you back to your present joys. IOW, you have many joys in your future bigger yet than your present sadness, as all-encompassing as it feels now.

If it is a true passion for you, it might be worth considering, even if leaving your friends is hard. Know that your major is not your career, though, in most cases, if that is your concern.. Can you take related courses at BC to satisfy your interest? Consider talking it over with your academic advisor.

BC is a wonderful college, full of faculty, staff, and students who share a commitment to making the world a better place. Keep researching & visiting colleges and base your decision on which environments appeal to you and will help you grow.

Wait it out cheerfully. Be supportive. People get to make their own choices, especially about that.