I would truly hate to do this, and make a scene and ruin the day, but would if absolutely necessary. For instance, if I discovered immediately before the wedding that the intended had previously done in several spouses for insurance money…

I think I’d make a good cooling rack. Please don’t cut things up on me!

When things go well, it feels good to believe it’s because I’m good at what I do. When things don’t go well, it feels good to be a victim of fate.

There are a million reasons that have nothing to do with you why someone might not like you. Don’t take it personally, and hang out with people who do like you.

I recommend Pat Benatar’s All Fired Up for that, because I’m an 80s kid.

I don’t know, because I don’t know what you’re doing. But the fact that you’re concerned about causing harm is a good sign. Keep that concern in the mix of your decisions, and keep going.

Clarity. Nicely and sweetly wrapped up in kindness.

Why is he so annoying?

It’s probably a stage, as my wise Dad (a NYC apartment who has seen it all…) used to say. He might outgrow it – or it could be his personality. In any case, you are free to make your choice about how to deal with it.

Is that a thing? My librarian friends have gone and been fine.

I have faith in you that you can accomplish what you set out to do. Keep your goals in mind, and don’t be afraid to ask for help!

If you can’t take it home with you for whatever reason, one option might be to use a storage service in Boston. There are enough students in town that there are several local businesses who can arrange to pick up your stuff and store it. I can’t do product recommendations, but Google is your friend.

Oh, I am so sorry to hear that. I’m a Wall and can offer physical support – but I urge you to find folks and resources to support you specifically in other ways as you navigate this scary news. Please consider reaching out to BC’s Counseling Services: bit.ly/BC-counseling

Because not believing in it is lonely.

Could be! Let’s see what the future will hold for you!

Sorry, not sure what you’re asking. Maybe try rephrasing it?

Wanting winter to leave and spring to hurry up seems universal & timeless, and represented beautifully in this excerpt from Tang Dynasty a poem by Cui Daorong. For those who don’t read Chinese: “If the north wind can understand Plum Blossom’s intentions, please stop torturing her.” The post adds “Happy New Year!” Happy New Year to you, to, and may it bring spring’s blossoms soon!

Do you know the percent or # of people that are BC students & marry other BC students?

That’s tough, because sexual attraction is such a basic part of being a human (or not human; I get distracted by the sight of my beloved O’Neill Lobby Door). Mindfullness techniques may help you limit the distractions. You might also consider academic coaching from the Connors Family Learning Center (bit.ly/BC-connors) to build productive study skills.

One faces and mourns the loss, then finds comfort in the company of friends and/or one’s pursuit of one’s own passions & dreams. This Answer Wall believes there are many possible soul-mates, and you’ll find one of them by being your most authentic self.