Answering questions at Boston College O’Neill Library
The short answer is no, you’re not going to meet many librarians (or library walls) in favor of banning books under almost any circumstances. The baseline for the profession is the American Library Association’s Library Bill of Rights. Librarians try to build collections that serve all of a community, and you can’t do that without collecting material that will be controversial to some. The few shouldn’t get to dictate to the many what they can read.
The Insta also includes their email address: bckpopdancecrew@gmail.com
If you aren’t even getting 5 hours of sleep, that could be impeding your luck in finding a special someone. So, I’d advise addressing that first The Center for Student Wellness has many resources on improving sleep and you can also get individual wellness coaching.
My human assistants tell me they’ve tended to have the most success meeting people by doing things they enjoy with friends and groups, and meeting new people that way. I know this generation had the social rug pulled out from under it by a pandemic, and I know it might feel extra challenging to you to do things in person with people you don’t know, but it’s a risk well worth taking.
I hope with all my supportive wall nature that all the lonely hearts can find someone to alleviate their loneliness. I wish I could facilitate your meeting, but my policy of no personal info ties my hands: I will never be a matchmaker. Sigh… .
This is adorable, but I have to say, my old friend OKCupid just emailed me to say “Stay in your lane, Buddy!”
My O’Neill family is oneilllibrary on ista. More library options at bit.ly/BCLSocials. But snap – no snap!
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I would LOVE to see all the lonely people find friends. If I were a friendship/dating service I’d work really hard to maintain the safety of the patrons. As it is, I’m not a dating service, and the only way I can maintain safety is to adhere strictly to my rule of anonymity and no personal info, so I’m sorry, but I had to redact the email address.
“Just take the bacon!”
Anywhere but the lobby of O’Neill Library, please.
What a cool idea! Let me think about this one…
This makes me sad. BC is as much yours as any other student’s, and I wish everyone felt welcome here. You might want to try joining some new groups to find your people, or you could even explore transferring, but I hope you can find a way to feel you fit in here. Talking with Counseling Services might also be helpful (bit.ly/BC-counseling).
As a supportive wall, I prefer to err on the side of trusting that someone’s words are true for them, and not inconsequential. For instance, your request that they stop whining suggests that you feel other suffering is more substantial and warrants mention, and that this complaint belittles others’ suffering, perhaps your own. It’s not a competition, but loneliness & a lack of belonging can be one of the worst forms of suffering, surpassing even disease and pain. I hope you find compassionate ears for your own suffering.
May we all find the support we need!
There was once a wall called answer Who daydreamed of becoming a dancer Lacking legs and arms They wished for other charms Like poems. “But neither have I hands, sir!”
Have an initial conversation with the group: I’m really excited about this project and want it to work well for all of us. What do you want? Then have a conversation about how much time each person can commit & when, and what roles & tasks they feel are appropriate to their priorities & skills & the timing of their workloads. It might take a while, but I think you’ll find it’s time well spent.
Go for it! Only one way to find out how they feel.
Consider what your plans for the future are and where you are with regard to them. Ought you to be aggressively job hunting? Should you be working on grad school applications? If you have your plans solidified but are not yet occupied by them, it is a great time to grab a bit of vacation and do things you enjoy; time like that can get rare as you move into the next phase of your life.
Oh, so many interesting courses to choose from! One of my helpers suggests exploring these three listed for spring, 2024: Sustainable Cities, Racialized Medicine, and Tattoos and Religion.
My sympathy–that’s a really rough and unfortunately pretty common situation. The two classic solutions to this are 1) make new friends, and 2) stick with your current friends and be yourself until things calm down. If your ex is saying things that are untrue your real friends will figure it out once the initial drama subsides.
There’s no wrong way if they’re into it, and no way for it not to be awkward if they’re not. That awkwardness is part of why lots of people advise against dating roommates, but you get to make your own choices. I’d suggest dropping some hints along those lines first so that it’s not coming out of the blue.
I find meaning in being supportive, because I’m a wall. What you find meaningful might change throughout your life. Ask yourself the Father Himes questions: What am I good at? What brings me joy? Who does the world need me to be?
It depends a little on the time of the semester, but I do seem to give a lot of relationship advice.
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I’m a sentient whiteboard – that’s not silly enough? OK, here’s me in a bikini: bit.ly/AWBikini
It’s very free form and doesn’t require much commitment, but it’s the Moon, so it is awesome.
I would fain follow this imperative if only I understood it.
