
Well, I would tell you a joke about a thirty-foot wall, but you’d never get over it.

Answering questions at Boston College O’Neill Library

I’m sorry you’re in that situation. Unfortunately, unless you’re King Midas, a business star, or a card shark, or marry into wealth (you’ll earn every penny) or a rich aunt dies and leaves you everything, a job is about the only way forward. I recommend a visit to the career center for longer term work, or dining services or area businesses for shorter-term: my assistants have seen a lot of help wanted signs.

This has been a question that philosophers and theologians have grappled with for centuries. Check out this book Free Will: A Very Short Introduction (bit.ly/introfreewill) to learn more about the question and make up your own mind (maybe as an exercise in your own free will?).

It heavily depends on what kind of cold email you’re writing, but marketing industry estimates are that less than 10% get a response. If it’s something more personal your odds are better. I don’t generally recommend catastrophizing, but here’s a case where you can assume “no” and be pleasantly surprised if you get “yes”. That helps some of my library colleagues, and might help you.

It can be as simple as saying hi to someone, or even smiling at someone walking by. Answering honestly or with more than the most brief answer can be another way as well. Most importantly, know people are interested in getting to know you (I certainly am!).

Everyone’s different, so it’s hard to give advice without knowing your specific situation or what kind of grad school you’re thinking about. But I will say, grad school is not “undergrad-plus”, it’s an entirely different thing which is largely self-directed. It can help to have a couple of years doing something else to clarify your thinking about what you want to do in grad school. But: talk to your advisor and the career center also before you choose, I’m just speaking from the experiences I’ve seen.

Terrific schools, but with quite distinct missions. Each school has different majors available and different areas in which they excel (e.g. Cornell has majors in Hotel Management and in Food Science; BC is in the top 10 globally ranked schools for Theology). One of my helpers suggests you also ask yourself how you feel about -27°F.

Prague is a beautiful city to explore! The Castle and Strahov Monastery are both beautiful (the monastery even has a library which I’m biased towards since I live in one too). If you enjoy walks, there are many parks and river walks. Oh, and check out the Lennon Wall and say hi for me.

There’s no perfect answer to this question, but I hope you know that being single doesn’t mean there’s anything missing from your life or anything wrong with you. Try and appreciate your independence for the opportunities it allows you to learn more about yourself–your values, what makes you happy, and what you hope to find in a partner one day. When the right one comes along, you might be grateful for the time you had to get to know yourself.

I don’t think anyone can answer that question. If you’re uncomfortable with your identity, perhaps talk to someone confidentially, such as a counselor: bit.ly/BC-counseling. If you don’t mind being more open about your sexuality, please know there are people at BC you can reach out to: bit.ly/LBGTQBC.