Answering questions at Boston College O’Neill Library
Yes, this seems like it is bad. IAAWNAP, but I would argue both that you deserve more than this, and that if he is placing his use of substances over his relationships, it’s a red flag that he should consider seeking help about it. Why not contact Counseling Services (bit.ly/BC-counseling) and running your question by them?
The Wall would totally watch that movie.
I would advise you to be, as much and as often as you can, your authentic awesome self. It’s the sustainable way to live and whether that makes your boyfriend love you so much it drives him crazy is on him.
So frustrating! I suppose it doesn’t help to look at the bright side of having the maximum amount of time to study…? Best wishes for your remaining exam(s) and then summer!
There is no club at BC that covers your interest, although you can find a full list of BC Organizations here: bit.ly/BCOrgs. If you’re interested in the subject, it appears that Dr. Eric Weiskott is offering a course on Chaucer (ENG3393) this fall.
I’m not big on prognostication, but this could be a relatively easy one, if all of the conditions affecting tuition and fees from 2000 to the present remain consistent until 2040. (That could be a big IF.) The trend line is pretty straight: bit.ly/BC-tuition. I’ll let you do the extrapolation. Business Insider reports a different take by analysts at JP Morgan Funds, who think annual increases will be 5%: bit.ly/scary-college-cost.
Unfortunately, once you have had sex and lost your virginity, there is no way to get your virginity “back”. However, you always have the option of becoming a “born again virgin” and remaining celibate from this point until you feel you are ready to engage in intercourse again, such as waiting until you are in love or married.
There’s a long church history on the question of celibacy and the clergy, some of which you can see in the New Catholic Encyclopedia: bit.ly/bc-celibacy. The early Church and Eastern Christianity had/have married clergy, and the Western Church recognizes them as priests. bit.ly/bc-celibacy2. Saint Augustine, prior to being a priest and then bishop, was apparently sexually active. (Confessions book 3, chapter 1): bit.ly/bc-celibacy3. So no, virginity is apparently not a requirement, but a vow of celibacy is. The Wall has reached out to other walls on campus for additional comment.
It is pretty easy once you know the trick. My assistants use this template: bit.ly/print-postit to create the ‘document’ (sometimes adapting the type size so the responses will fit on a post-it). Next they take a printed copy of the template and put post-it notes on it. Then they send the ‘document’ to the printer as a manual feed, put the template with sticky-notes into the printer’s manual feed tray, et voilà!
He is trying (see: “Freaky Friday”) but the Wall sincerely hopes he does not.
As a Wall, I don’t watch shows myself and I don’t often have shows projected onto me, but I have heard that some people project movies and shows onto other walls. My human friends have a wide range of interests in Netflix entertainment. Digital Trends has an article on “The Best Shows on Netflix Now,” bit.ly/netflix-best. The list is mostly dramas, but if you like quirky comedies some people like a show called “The Good Place,” starring Kirsten Bell and Ted Danson, and the Huffington Post has an article titled, “The 5 Netflix Shows to Watch if you Like The Office.” bit.ly/netflix-office. Enjoy your downtime!
He should be listening to you about what you like and what you don’t. Talk about what works for you on your own, or explore together if you don’t know. Dump him if he’s not interested in learning. If you’d like some reading material, the BC Libraries don’t have a great collection on sex instruction, but you can try searching for that in Worldcat (bc.on.worldcat.org) and have it delivered by interlibrary loan, or in the Boston Public Library, where all students are eligible for library cards (bpl.bibliocommons.com).
How could I possibly pick just one? Hadrian’s Wall: A Life (O’Neill Library DA146 .H56 2012), by Richard Hingley was one of my recent favorites. A classic, of course, is Peter Wyden’s Wall: The Inside Story of a Divided Berlin (O’Neill Library DD881 .W93 1989). The Great Wall: China Against the World, 1000 BC – AD 2000 (O’Neill Library DS 793 .G67 L584 2006) by Julia Lovell covers an epic span of history. But I’m not a complete monomaniac! I also like art. The artist Andy Goldsworthy is well known for his works in stone and wood, and I’m especially fond of his art book Wall at Storm King (Bapst Library NB198 .G64 2000).
Students often feel more pressure during finals; after all, this is the last chance to shine and everyone wants to do well. It can become a downward spiral though: staying up all night, not eating well, focusing on failing, being distracted. This online article from Time (ti.me/2I4UL0U) has some simple and good tips for surviving finals week. (A visit with the therapy dogs can be beneficial too.) So while they may be the WORST, the Wall has faith that you will do your best and you will survive finals. And remember, I and my assistants are here to support you!
Hanging out here in O’Neill day in, day out, midterms and exam weeks, I’ve seen some serious distress, for sure. There’s no denying college stress can get to you. There are lots of ways we can help to alleviate some of that, with everything from therapy dogs to referrals to the Connors Family Learning Center for academic coaching, or the Counseling Center for guidance. I hope people know they can ask for help, and maybe avoid a breakdown.
Because they’re wicked popular? But their site (bit.ly/bts-world-tour) promises more dates to come, so maybe you’ll get your wish…
Sometimes. #curious
The Wall salutes your entrepreneurial spirit, but doesn’t have that kind of space. For a technical answer, you might try the Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy: bit.ly/bc-dasein1. You could also look at something like the Cambridge Companion to Heidegger: bit.ly/2ry9wPo. Both will have lots of suggestions for further reading. Ask the humans at the reference desk if these don’t do what you need.
Oxford Bibliographies Online points to several (bit.ly/taiwan-histories), including Rubinstein, Murray, ed. Taiwan: A New History. New York: M. E. Sharpe, 2015 (we have an earlier edition in O’Neill Stacks DS799.5 .T3114 2007).
Tanti auguri!
