Answering questions at Boston College O’Neill Library
Read the syllabus. Turn in your work on time. Ask questions about things that genuinely interest you. If you talk a lot in class discussion, maybe try being a little quieter and letting classmates speak; if you don’t, try speaking up a little more. Be a good human.
100% Understandable. Dogs are wonderful. If possible, have a human send you daily photos, that may help!
Oooooh, IDK, but you know who can help it get easier? Tutors! bit.ly/BC-connors
As I understand it there are many platforms for viewing films– I don’t have a firm grasp of that, but in no particular order here are some autumnal films I enjoy: Hocus Pocus, Legally Blonde, Bend it Like Beckham, You’ve Got Mail, Babe (1995), Fantastic Mr. Fox, Always Be My Maybe, 10 Things I Hate About You… don’t forget we have a fabulous DVD collection!
I’m not much of a foodie, myself (I slightly prefer pink to yellow post-its – a little sweeter). I recommend asking BC Dining yourself: bit.ly/bc-dining-feedback for a quicker answer.
You’ve got this! Let us know if we can help with anything.
The best I can do is send your feedback to Dining Services, which you can do as well: bit.ly/bc-dining-feedback. If they respond, I’ll post it here.
BC Dining Responds:
The plastic salad bowls are only a temporary substitution from our vendor. We will return to the biodegradable containers as soon as they become available.
This year’s Green2Go program allows students to opt for a free reusable to-go container instead of paper or plastic when they are eating on the go. It’s now available at Lower, McElroy, Stuart, Addie’s, and Eagle’s Nest. There’s no upfront cost, plus, students get 10% off each meal they checkout in a Green2Go container.
It’s always good to see people share love.
Anyone is welcome to do research at Burns Library! However, to maintain a secure environment for our rare and unique collections, we do restrict our reading room to researchers who are using our materials. If you just need a place to study, check the list of study spaces for spaces available in our other libraries on campus.
I don’t think there’s an easy fix to make missing someone less painful. Trying to video call regularly, finding ways to do things together virtually over distance, are two ways that can help mitigate some of the ache. But a lot of it is just missing someone for a lot of the time.
I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s clear you feel isolated, and it’s good to reach out to others. Here’s a helpful page about the journey of grieving in college provided by Campus Ministry: bit.ly/college-grief, who also sponsors a peer grief support network: bit.ly/bc-peer-grief. Counseling is another option For counseling with a spiritual context: bit.ly/bc-pastoral-counseling. For regular counseling: bit.ly/BC-counseling. I wish you peace and strength in your journey.
It’s important to remember that loneliness is a feeling, and feelings come and go. If you’d like to be with other people: call family, call old friends, call new friends, do things with new friends. Make friends by chatting with people who live near you, or are behind you in line at the Chocolate Bar, or if you’re a BC student, by joining BC clubs that interest you. I hope one of these helps alleviate those feelings!
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If you’re hungry, isn’t anything good? No, but seriously, I’ve heard the soups are all excellent, and you kind of can’t beat the salad bar at Lower (remember it’s by bowl size, not weight, so go for the heavy stuff, like fresh mozzarella or artichoke hearts!).
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Missing someone is so difficult. Letting yourself feel the loss is key to being able to move forward. It is counterintuitive, but feeling sad/lonely/bittersweet helps your brain process and eventually make peace. You deserve peace.
If there’s any specific you want to know, please do let me know. In the meantime, carry on!
I can’t quite be sure what you mean, but I’ll take the opportunity to talk about a movie I liked. The library had a screening of The Farewell, directed by Lulu Wan. I haven’t stopped thinking about this heartfelt comedic drama. It is based on a true story, which made it feel very real to me.
The answer to that will vary depending on who you talk to and what they value most. Overall, from my experience listening to you all and watching life in O’Neill lobby, I have seen that human connection, taking time for each other, listening, loving one another. and living with purpose seem to rank pretty high on the important scale.
What others have said is true: not everyone expresses love the same way and not everyone easily compliments. Even if you don’t feel any reciprocation, likely your words mean a great deal to those you compliment.
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Agreed!
You made my day, thank you!
Caesar’s murder happened in the immediate aftermath of a civil war and sparked another generation of civil wars, so the actual whys are debated. But in general Romans hated tyrants, and one of Brutus’s ancestors had murdered the last of the Roman kings. If you want to get into the details I recommend this chapter in the Blackwell Companion to Juluis Caesar (bit.ly/bcl-caesar-assassination), which will point you to various interpretations and the ancient source material. (p.s. The line from Shakespeare’s Julius Caesar is “Et tu, Brute?” (“even you, Brutus?”). Plutarch has him say “kai su, o techne?” (“even you, my son?”)
Sigh… I’ve long been bedeviled by being in absolute last place in the Boston Marathon (I entered in 1985 and still haven’t even started!) so I get it. A wall will never break speed records. If it’s something you love, do it anyway, but don’t stake an income (or perhaps grades) on it. If you don’t love it, let it go and admire those who are good at it.
