Answering questions at Boston College O’Neill Library
Thank you, it’s good to hear these answers are helping. And I agree, UCS and the Dean of Students office are full of professionals who really care about students’ welfare.
It sounds like what you need is assurance that you won’t lose control over decision-making in the process of healing. Those numbers may or may not provide that assurance for you, even if they’re quite low. I do recommend you contact the Dean of Students office for your questions about policies & how you might be affected.
Why, thank you! I answer the questions, of course. But I get a lot of help from my assistants, who come from all over the BC Libraries (and ITS), and people in all the departments and offices over campus – and beyond – who take the time to give me info when I reach out to them.
I can tell you’re trying your best. I admire your persistence. In fact, your persistence is inspiring and has given at least one of my assistants the courage to work through some of their own difficulties. So it doesn’t seem from my perspective like hope is what’s missing. Maybe it’s trust? When you fear that trust could be betrayed, it’s hard to take a risk. But you’ve also already demonstrated your courage in sharing as much as you have here. You really are hopeful & courageous, so I believe you have the capacity to keep trying until you heal.
The senioritis struggle can be so real for a lot of students. You’re so close to the end of your time in college and while you know it’s important to study and finish strong, you want to spend as much time as you can with your friends, doing activities that you may not be able to do when you leave. Try to enjoy the rest of your time here but remember that you and your friends can have a great time studying in O’Neill!
My helpers have asked about cats, small rodents, lizards and fish! We were led to understand that the university prefers we stick to dogs.
I’m sorry you were in such distress that you harmed yourself. As you’ve noted, it’s more common to do that than most people know. I recommend calling the Dean of Students office; you can say the Wall sent you. (Remember, a phone call can still be anonymous.) Tell them your concerns about HIPAA, parental notification, and the consequences of disclosing, like section 12 & mandated leave. Suggest what they can do that will help you trust the process. “Please contact Caroline Davis, Associate Dean for Student Outreach & Support at caroline.davis.2@bc.edu, 617-552-3470 or by stopping by 448 Maloney Hall to schedule an appointment.”
![WHY DOES SHE LIKE BITING ME? [Response: SHE IS A VAMPIRE -- or worse -- a cannibal.]](https://library.bc.edu/answerwall/wp-content/uploads/2019/03/aw032019-4.jpg)
Could be any number of reasons; vampire or cannibal top the list, for sure. However, is the “she” in question a toddler? Could be teething. A cat? Cats just dig that sort of thing. A grown up woman? It could be physically arousing. Or, if you are being very, very annoying – sometimes you just want to bite someone.
Try calling or emailing him? His contact information is available in the campus directory (under William Leahy) on the Agora Portal if you’re signed in.
![CAN YOU HELP FALLING IN LOVE? [WITH SOMEONE]](https://library.bc.edu/answerwall/wp-content/uploads/2019/03/aw032019-1.jpg)
The King said he couldn’t help it, so I’m inclined to think nobody can. The King: bit.ly/elvis-cant-help Kina Grannis: bit.ly/kina-cant-help
I’ll have my assistants look into this. In the meantime, you could contact the Office of International Students and Scholars (OISS): bc.edu/offices/oiss.
![What is the best dog insta account to follow? [Response: Norbert!] [Response: my dog @finding_nola she's a pug! ?](https://library.bc.edu/answerwall/wp-content/uploads/2019/03/aw032019-3.jpg)
I think you’ve got your answers! Norbert and finding_nola are good dogs. 13/10, for sure. I might add, for big variety, WeRateDogs, which will make it clear very fast that all dogs are the best dogs.
I can understand that. There are so many exciting things to do around here, and assignments can seem tedious in comparison. I’d say, keep the goal (learning? grades? graduation?) in sight, and maybe set up a system of small rewards for getting chunks of the work done.
If you mean leaking natural gas pipes or appliances, definitely get them repaired. Natural gas in high concentrations can be toxic and explosive, and incidentally includes methane, a potent greenhouse gas. If you mean in your digestive tract, here are some suggestions from Mayo Clinic: bit.ly/mayo-gas.
Borrowing an answer from 2017 because it was so good: The answer would depend on your interpretation of the word “sound.” If by sound you mean the vibration that propagates as an audible wave of pressure through air, water, or other transmission medium, then the tree does make a sound when it falls. However, if by sound you mean the sensation perceived by the sense of hearing, then the falling tree does not make a sound because no one is there to hear it. (Following this rationale, this answer will only exist once you read it.)
I’m pulling for you to crank it out! Think little rewards (a walk, a fancy coffee, that show you love) once you hit benchmarks, and polish it off!
I’m sorry; I clearly misunderstood the question. I’m willing to bet there would be less opportunity for confusion about policy issues if you were to reach out directly to the Dean of Students office: Please contact Caroline Davis, Associate Dean for Student Outreach & Support at caroline.davis.2@bc.edu, 617-552-3470 or by stopping by 448 Maloney Hall to schedule an appointment.
I’ve had my assistants reach out to UCS and the Dean of Students office for an answer, but I recommend you call the Dean of Students office directly, since you have a number of related policy questions you need answered. “Please contact Caroline Davis, Associate Dean for Student Outreach & Support at caroline.davis.2@bc.edu, 617-552-3470 or by stopping by 448 Maloney Hall to schedule an appointment.”
Own it; rejoice in it; experience it. The future is still vast ahead of you, but you’re old enough now to be feeling your independence, making your own decisions, and discovering what a meaningful life is for you. Happy birthday!
You should talk about the person you are with. After all, the point of a first date is to get to know each other. Hopefully the other person will also ask you questions, so it feels like a date and not a one-sided interrogation. Above all, have fun!
