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Why is it so hard to find an off campus therapist?

Wh is it so hard to find an off campus therapist? It's SO exhausting going to a new therapist and re-tell your story every 1-2 weeks, and them say you are too upbeat or need too intense care (why...so extreme) and keep giving you referrals. Will I even find one by the end of the semester? What other resources can BC student navigate? (No, I feel bad for keep asking UCS for referrals). Should I just give up? Where, besides UCS, should I go?????
Why is it so hard to find an off campus therapist? It’s SO exhausting going to a new therapist and re-tell your story every 1-2 weeks, and them say you are too upbeat or need too intense care (why…so extreme) and keep giving you referrals. Will I even find one by the end of the semester? What other resources can BC student navigate? (No, I feel bad for keep asking UCS for referrals). Should I just give up? Where, besides UCS, should I go?????

UCS responds: “We recognize that finding the right fit in a therapist can be tiring and difficult, but also believe that it can be incredibly helpful once that connection is made. It sounds as though you have heard from multiple sources that a more intensive therapy would be recommended, which indicates that you should not just give up. Please know that you can continue to seek additional referrals from UCS, and can also contact the emergency clinician if you become overwhelmed. Additional web based resources can be found on the UCS website: bc.edu/offices/counseling/external.html, there is Lean on Me, an anonymous student run peer support text line, can be reached at 617-553-6655, and pastoral counseling can be sought through Campus Ministry: bc.edu/offices/ministry/pastoral-counseling.html.”

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How much time do you spend on answering these questions?

How much time do you spend on answering these questions? With these much questions post every day... do we have a specialist who work full-time just to answer the questions?
How much time do you spend on answering these questions? With these much questions post every day… do we have a specialist who work full-time just to answer the questions?

I have a pretty big team of helpers who advise me on what to say, and who do the printing and blogging. So it’s not very much time at all for me, and not a huge amount for any one helper.

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How do people have time for everything going on at school and still have time to sleep and have fun?

How do people have time for everything going on at school and still have time to sleep and have fun? Every time I try, I end up doing sub-par in class.
How do people have time for everything going on at school and still have time to sleep and have fun? Every time I try, I end up doing sub-par in class.

You sound like a perfect candidate for some academic coaching and time management skill training at the Connors Family Learning Center (bit.ly/BC-connors). Because I think you should do well in class, sleep AND have some fun – give it a try.

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Will I get a boyfriend?

Will I get a boyfriend?
Will I get a boyfriend?

I hope so, if that’s what you want. You certainly deserve love. For predictions, I recommend talking to my good friend the magic 8-ball. I’m good at information, but not so good at predictions.

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Since capatilism kills more than it helps, now what? ALSO… Booker, Harris, Warren, Yang, Biden or Bernie–>2020?

Since capatilism kills more than it helps, now what? ALSO... Booker, Harris, Warren, Yang, Biden or Bernie--2020?
Since capatilism kills more than it helps, now what? ALSO… Booker, Harris, Warren, Yang, Biden or Bernie–2020?

Probably there is no “now what”. Capitalism, for all its flaws, is the only system that humans have ever known, and probably ever will know as long as we live on a planet with finite resources. Even in supposed “non-capitalist” regimes, the fundamentals of capitalism still exist in gray and black markets. It is fair to say that it has killed a lot of people by extension, but more than it helps? I dunno. A lot of people are alive today due to technological advances created in order to make a buck (or even to make a buck while being more effective at killing the other guy in war). I think that all of the candidates for 2020 are good people doing their best to make our country better as they see fit (how’s that for dodging a question?). You sound like you might enjoy reading Thomas Piketty’s The Economics of Inequality (O’Neill HB523 .P54713 2015).

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Is there a dog walking job available on campus?

Is there a dog walking job available on campus?
Is there a dog walking job available on campus?

I don’t think there are any dog walkers employed by BC. And as a friend of exterior walls, I can say that I’m kind of glad about that. But if you’re looking to get into dog walking as a job, maybe offer your services on Rover (aka “Uber for Dog walkers”). If you only accept jobs around BC, I imagine you could walk the dogs around campus if you wanted. Just please keep them a good distance away from me & my friends when they’re doing their business.

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How many students are section 12 each year? Isn’t it very TRAUMATIZING to be sectioned?

How many students are section 12 each year? Isn't it very TRAUMATIZING to be sectioned?
How many students are section 12 each year? Isn’t it very TRAUMATIZING to be sectioned?

I imagine that would be traumatizing, but section 12 is used only in cases where the alternative might lead to the harm of self or others, which could likely ultimately be more traumatizing than being sent involuntarily for care. I have assurances that my assistants are working diligently on getting answers to these questions. I am grateful for your patience.

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Why is APPA so life changing & awesome? <3

Why is APPA so life changing & awesome? <3
Why is APPA so life changing & awesome? <3

People do speak highly of the Appalachia Volunteers program (bit.ly/BC-APPA), which other folks might not know also visits other areas as well, such as Detroit and New Orleans, to serve the poor and marginalized of the US. Helping people build and repair homes who might not otherwise be able to afford them must be gratifying work.

Why are people obsessed w/Appa?
Why are people obsessed w/Appa?

It must feel good to be helpful. A lot of people are obsessed with all the opportunities at the Volunteer and Service Learning Center, too: bit.ly/BCVSLC

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Why I dont have a boyfriend? I’m rich!!! Beautiful!!

Why I dont have a boyfriend? I'm rich!!! Beautiful!!
Why I dont have a boyfriend? I’m rich!!! Beautiful!!
I have one. I am not rich or beautiful though. I hope you find one soon.
I have one. I am not rich or beautiful though. I hope you find one soon.

As the great philosopher Sir Paul McCartney once sagely noted, “Money can’t buy me love.” Money can, in the right circumstances, buy partnership and quiet. But that’s not the same as love. The same is true of beauty. Beauty on its own can inspire lust, but rarely love. Love is a deeper emotion that is created by a bond between two people that is the sum of all their experiences together. It is the deepest of friendships. So my advice to you is to search for someone you could see as a friend first, and then determine whether you two would make a good couple. I believe in you!