What should I do with my girlfriend on our next date?

What should I do with my girlfriend on our next date?
What should I do with my girlfriend on our next date?

Great question. Since it’s nice out, getting outside for a date can be great. You can always get a ferry to the Harbor Islands (some of them have some pretty cools walls I’ve been told). Or you could always find one of the many ice cream places around Boston. Or, ask her if she’s got something she’s been wanting to do.

Doors or Wheels!?

Doors or Wheels!?
Doors or Wheels!?

Wheeeeeeels! As I noted in my answer a few years ago: bit.ly/bcl-doors-wheels. I love a debate with low stakes and high ambiguity, because redefinition keeps it alive. All the gears in clocks and watches beat doors without the help of lego or car wheels! But if eyes are the doors to the soul… .

So many of my friends are graduating and I’ll miss them so much. What should I do?

So many of my friends are graduating and I'll miss them so much. What should I do?
So many of my friends are graduating and I’ll miss them so much. What should I do?

Commencement is such a bittersweet time of year. We are happy for the new beginnings while we honor that it is an ending of sorts. Keep the group chat going! All friendships shift over time, but that doesn’t mean there are not more adventures in your future. Be gentle with yourself and your friends while you navigate this transition period. Practice good self-care!

What’s your favorite and least favorite book in this library? ❤️

What's your favorite and least favorite book in this library? [drawing of heart]
What’s your favorite and least favorite book in this library? ❤️

I try not to play favorites and I also love lots of different kinds of books, so if you ask me on another day I’ll probably give a different answer. Today I’ll say my favorite is The Landmark Thucydides. It’s a history of the war between Athens and Sparta and a lot of it is about armies moving back and forth around really small towns in every part of ancient Greece. What makes me love it is the maps, which show you where all those places are, and the chapters explaining all of the things about Greek armies the author assumes you know. Least favorite? We’ve got some stuff on eugenics that was classified as science when it was published in the 19th century–not even going to name names. My fave is the red book on the shelf to my left.

Have to go to the job market but really don’t feel prepared…

Have to go to the job market but really don't feel prepared...
Have to go to the job market but really don’t feel prepared…

No worries, you’re not alone–lots of my helpers feel that way every time they do a search. A couple of pieces of advice. 1) Your application should be about how you help them solve a problem or problems. 2) Use your cover letter to point to how your resume and experience match what they’re asking for, or rewrite your resume so it’s in their terms (or both). 3) Do not be shy about applying if you don’t meet all of the qualifications. Good luck!

Should I quit my major & become a nurse?

Should I quit my major & become a nurse? Having a mid-college crisis!
Should I quit my major & become a nurse? Having a mid-college crisis!

I can’t tell you what the right decision for you is, but I can absolutely tell you that you will have plenty of occasions to make up and change your mind about what your life is for. This might be one of those moments for you. Talk to some people you trust about it (thanks for including me!) and see if it feels like a good idea. If it does, go for it!