Answering questions at Boston College O’Neill Library
Neither me nor my assistants have heard of this particular molly, and are intrigued. Tell me more.
![She's a puppy that walks on campus, she has an article and is the best girl! [?] @mollyonthequad](https://library.bc.edu/answerwall/wp-content/uploads/2020/01/aw012920-3.jpg)
She’s beautiful! 13/10. I’ll make sure my staff watches out for her and finds the Insta account @mollyonthequad.
I think this is going to have to be “the one that got away.” BC policy states”the policy prohibits any faculty member, employee, graduate assistant, or undergraduate teaching assistant from engaging in a romantic or sexual relationship, or in any romantic or sexual conduct, with any individual whom they supervise, teach, advise, evaluate, counsel, or coach” http://bit.ly/BCRevConsent
There’s an article from University Communications on the BC News site proudly showing off the decorated caps of Commencement 2018, so I expect it’s not forbidden. And they’re amazing! http://bit.ly/BCCaps.
That’s an impressive invisible dragon! I’ve drawn an invisible knight. I hope you like it.
Graduate students currently enrolled in a degree-granting program and currently registered for classes, and their spouses, can purchase a membership by presenting a valid Boston College Eagle-One ID card. For more information go to: bit.ly/BC-Rec
Crazy girls and crazy boys, I wish the best for you. May you all be safe, may you experience joy, may you be healthy, and may you live with ease.
I gather that this type of guy is not the right type of guy for you. You can start by making an appointment with University Counseling, or find a private therapist to help you work through this pattern. And write down a list of the most important qualities in a good partner/friend for you. Also think about that boy from your younger days who you really liked in a platonic way — what was he like? Would someone like him appeal to you today, romantically? Consider mixing up your BC social life a bit. You may encounter some new faces that will surprise you. It’s a tough process, but good to face if you know you’re on the wrong path.
I am enjoying your adorable animal pictures so much! Can we have an otter soon? Tomorrow or some otter day?
May the year of the Rat bring you good luck and prosperity. Happy Lunar New Year!!!
Tip: Ask a Librarian. They’re at the reference desk (the one facing the main doors) 9am-9pm M-Th, 9-5 F, and 11-7 Sat/Sun. The library website (library.bc.edu) is full of information about resources. Just follow the “Research Guides” link (library.bc.edu/research_guides) or the “Get Help” link on the menu.There are library tip cards just to my right (your left). Health & wellness tip cards from the Office of Health Promotion are on the display rack next to the reference desk.
The key to time management is that you can’t actually manage time. But you can figure out your values and goals, and work at aligning your behaviors with them. Here’s a good book: bit.ly/BC-time-management. It’s an e-book, which saves you the time of finding a book in the library. Already managing your time!
If you haven’t done so already, I would suggest telling her you don’t like being slapped. Respecting each other’s boundaries is a pretty fundamental part of maintaining a healthy relationship.
You have a good point there. If you feel threatened by the slapping, and/or she won’t stop after you’ve asked her to, then it does become more of a domestic violence issue. Find BC and Boston help/resources here: bit.ly/BCPartnerAbuse.
I’m sorry to say it’s January in Boston. February is usually a little less cold, but often more snowy. Warmth will eventually return. Meanwhile, embrace the suck!
Sometimes you can’t help getting sick, but you probably know the basics of how best to maintain a healthy body: enough sleep, healthy foods, exercise, frequent hand-washing, etc. Why not schedule a coaching session with the Ofc. of Health Promotion (bit.ly/BC-health-promo) to fine tune your prevention?
You have people around you who love you, and whom you love. They support you, and you support them, whatever happens.
I have to agree with my friend that asking this question does not in any way mean you’re not on the right track. In fact, asking it probably means you’re on the right track or at least want to head in that direction. Even people that are on the “right” track in their lives ask a present-tense version of the original future-tense question: “How can I improve myself?” Always be willing to look at yourself honestly and seek improvement.
It’s a hard path, but one option is to follow Gautama Buddha’s lead and confront the truth head on: life is suffering. Through mindful meditation on the present moment, he accessed what he called “the deathless,” the insight that everyone suffers, and the soul lives on, and the way to understanding is through compassion for everyone’s suffering. The Christian path is not necessarily easier or all that different: know that your soul lives on through love.
You’ll be pleased to know that the first BC Esports meeting of this semester will be held on Friday, January 24: https://www.facebook.com/events/200244921014931/
I spoke to my friends at Student Services and the Advising Center; you can take 6 classes if you meet the GPA requirement, and there is no additional fee for that. But you can’t take 7. Chat with your Academic Advisor if you need to hash this out more.
I’m sorry you’re having those thoughts. Please contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (800-273-8355) right away, and/or immediately call Counseling Services (617-552-3310) or visit them in Gasson 001 and ask to speak to with the Psychological Emergency Clinician (PEC). Tell them you are having suicidal thoughts. If it’s not during work hours, call BC Police (617-552-4444) if you’re on campus or 911 if not. I and many, many people want you to get past this bad moment, and are ready to help.
Slow down, you move to fast. Got to make the morning last.
Yes. It is. It’s a snail. It’s not a pigeon. Or a butterfly. It ‘s also not a snail, if you follow the example set by Rene Magritte about his painting of a pipe. Or were you talking about my response? In that case, it’s a meme’s ancester, aka an allusion, in this case via a quotation, from Simon and Garfunkel’s “59th St. Bridge Song.” It’s a roundabout compliment about the happiness evoked by the drawing.
