As a conservative Mexican-American, I feel very isolated into expressing my opinions in class & with friends.

As a conservative Mexican-American, I feel very isolated into expressing my opinions in class & with friends.
As a conservative Mexican-American, I feel very isolated into expressing my opinions in class & with friends.

Seeking out and sharing with folks from a similar background or with similar viewpoints can help you feel less isolated and keep you in touch with the things that matter most to you, particularly when you feel like you are in the minority here at BC. But also take the time to evaluate your own beliefs, and take advantage of the opportunity to learn from people different from you — you might find yourself less alone than you think!

Are all the people in AC toxic?

Are all the people in AC toxic? (Asian communities on campus?)
Are all the people in AC toxic? (Asian communities on campus?)

No, absolutely not. I haven’t encountered any toxic communities on campus. And I’d prefer you not make negative generalizations about any of my friends. (Note: everyone at BC is a friend of mine, even if they don’t know it.)

Do you guys like molly the lab like we do?

Do you guys like molly the lab like we do?
Do you guys like molly the lab like we do?

Neither me nor my assistants have heard of this particular molly, and are intrigued. Tell me more.

She's a puppy that walks on campus, she has an article and is the best girl! [?] @mollyonthequad
She’s a puppy that walks on campus, she has an article and is the best girl! [?] @mollyonthequad

She’s beautiful! 13/10. I’ll make sure my staff watches out for her and finds the Insta account @mollyonthequad.

I fall in love with my TA What should I do?

I fall in love with my TA What should I do?
I fall in love with my TA What should I do?

I think this is going to have to be “the one that got away.” BC policy states”the policy prohibits any faculty member, employee, graduate assistant, or undergraduate teaching assistant from engaging in a romantic or sexual relationship, or in any romantic or sexual conduct, with any individual whom they supervise, teach, advise, evaluate, counsel, or coach” http://bit.ly/BCRevConsent

Why do I keep falling for the same type of guy?

Why do I keep falling for the same type of guy?
Why do I keep falling for the same type of guy?

I gather that this type of guy is not the right type of guy for you. You can start by making an appointment with University Counseling, or find a private therapist to help you work through this pattern. And write down a list of the most important qualities in a good partner/friend for you. Also think about that boy from your younger days who you really liked in a platonic way — what was he like? Would someone like him appeal to you today, romantically? Consider mixing up your BC social life a bit. You may encounter some new faces that will surprise you.  It’s a tough process, but good to face if you know you’re on the wrong path.

Please share tips!!

Please share tips!!
Please share tips!! <3

Tip: Ask a Librarian. They’re at the reference desk (the one facing the main doors) 9am-9pm M-Th, 9-5 F, and 11-7 Sat/Sun. The library website (library.bc.edu) is full of information about resources. Just follow the “Research Guides” link (library.bc.edu/research_guides) or the “Get Help” link on the menu.There are library tip cards just to my right (your left). Health & wellness tip cards from the Office of Health Promotion are on the display rack next to the reference desk.

This girl I’m seeing likes to slap me …

This girl I'm seeing likes to slap me, but I don't like it. What should I do?
This girl I’m seeing likes to slap me, but I don’t like it. What should I do?

If you haven’t done so already, I would suggest telling her you don’t like being slapped. Respecting each other’s boundaries is a pretty fundamental part of maintaining a healthy relationship.

If the genders were reversed that would be domestic violence/abuse & people would say to dump them/make it very clear to them not to do it again
If the genders were reversed that would be domestic violence/abuse & people would say to dump them/make it very clear to them not to do it again

You have a good point there. If you feel threatened by the slapping, and/or she won’t stop after you’ve asked her to, then it does become more of a domestic violence issue. Find BC and Boston help/resources here: bit.ly/BCPartnerAbuse.

How to stay healthy?

How to stay healthy? I keep getting sick :(
How to stay healthy? I keep getting sick 🙁

Sometimes you can’t help getting sick, but you probably know the basics of how best to maintain a healthy body: enough sleep, healthy foods, exercise, frequent hand-washing, etc. Why not schedule a coaching session with the Ofc. of Health Promotion (bit.ly/BC-health-promo) to fine tune your prevention?

how do I know if I’m on the right track of life?

how do I know if I'm on the right track of life?
how do I know if I’m on the right track of life?

You have people around you who love you, and whom you love. They support you, and you support them, whatever happens.

If you're asking this you're not :( Not true at all??? (Responses to 3454)
If you’re asking this you’re not 🙁 Not true at all???

I have to agree with my friend that asking this question does not in any way mean you’re not on the right track. In fact, asking it probably means you’re on the right track or at least want to head in that direction. Even people that are on the “right” track in their lives ask a present-tense version of the original future-tense question: “How can I improve myself?” Always be willing to look at yourself honestly and seek improvement.