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Can long distance work?? (I’m talking about Boston-Sydney)

Can long distance work?? (I'm talking about Boston-Sydney) Thx, wall :)
Can long distance work?? (I’m talking about Boston-Sydney) Thx, wall 🙂

If you are referring to a long-distance relationship, I did some research but could not find evidence that long-distance relationships work or don’t. However, this doesn’t mean it’s worth a try. Like any relationship, communication is key, so I first suggest finding a regular time for you and your partner to call or video-chat each other so that you don’t feel as far. Also, if either of you can afford it, I suggest planning to visit one another in person to maintain a physical connection. There’s also a few titles in our collection on long-distance relationships that are worth checking out: Maintaining long-distance and cross-residential Relationships by Laura Strafford (O’Neill Library Call # HM1106 .S753 2005), Dear John by Nicholas Sparks (O’Neill Library Call # PS3569.P363 D43 2024), and Landing by Emma Donoghue (O’Neill Library Call # PR6054 .O547 L36 2007)

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Do you think people should be forgiven even when they have done so much harm to others?

Do you think people should be forgiven even when they have done so much harm to others?
Do you think people should be forgiven even when they have done so much harm to others?

If you’re talking about religious forgiveness, I suggest talking with a pastoral counselor (bit.ly/bc-pastoral-counseling). It might also be worth exploring restorative or transformative justice, and the kind of truth and reconciliation processes that helped make peace in S. Africa and Rwanda. One helper recommended On Repentance and Repair by Danya Ruttenberg (O’Neill Library Call # BL476.7 .R88 2022) for the point of view of the one who did harm and how to make amends. Another recommended Free of Charge: Giving and Forgiving in a Culture Stripped of Grace, by Miroslav Volf.

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Who watches the Watchmen?

Who watches the Watchmen?
Who watches the Watchmen?

Indeed! If others are wondering, you might want to read the graphic novel, Watchmen, by Alan Moore, Dave Gibbons, and John Higgins. There are two copies on reserve that can be requested at the O’Neill patron services desk on Level 3. 

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My partner is avoidant when we fight. I tried to communicate with him multiple times but it never worked. He did do a lot for me in daily life, but when we fight, he always leaves and never comforts/confronts me. Should I leave?

My partner is avoidant when we fight. I tried to communicate with him multiple times but it never worked. He did do a lot for me in daily life, but when we fight, he always leaves and never comforts/confronts me. Should I leave?

I’m sorry to hear you have some relationship struggles. Communication struggles are not impossible to overcome but do require patience. It’s hard to give relationship advice from my position as a wall, so I highly recommend talking to someone, perhaps in Counseling Services: bit.ly/BC-counseling

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Any horror book recs?

Any Horror book recs?
Any Horror book recs?

Oh noooo! Sorry, I started to make a list and got distracted. Stephen King. He did a short story collection called Night Shift that’s fantastic. We don’t have that one (yet! we will soon), but we do have a bunch of his stuff. List coming soon!

Into the Drowning Deep, by Mira Grant
Holly, by Stephen King
The Indian Lake trilogy, by Stephen Graham Jones
In the Night Wood, by Dale Bailey
Wake the Bones, by Elizabeth Kilcoyne
The Ghost Stories of M.R. James (R6019.A565 A6 2018)
Between Two Fires, by Christopher Buehlman!!!!!
The Winter People, by Jennifer McMahon
The Passage trilogy, by Justin Cronin
The Haunting of Hill House, by Shirley Jackson
We Have Always Lived in the Castle, by Shirley Jackson
The Turn of the Screw, by Henry James
Cold Hand in Mine, by Robert Aickman
The Exorcist, by William Peter Blatty
Meddling Kids, by Edgar Cantero
Out, by Natsuo Kirino.
Pet Sematary, by Stephen King
Horror Movie, by Paul Tremblay
NOS4A2, by Joe Hill
Mexican Gothic, by Silvia Moreno-Garcia
Silver Nitrate, by Silvia Moreno-Garcia
The Militia House,  by John Milas
What Moves the Dead, by T. Kingfisher
Things Have Gotten Worse Since We Last Spoke And Other Misfortunes, by Eric LaRocca
Jackal, by Erin E. Adams
She is a Haunting, by Trang Thanh Tran
Plain Bad Heroines, by Emily M. Danforth
Devil House, by John Darnielle, 
The Icarus Girl, by Helen Oyeyemi 
Silver Nitrate, by Silvia Moreno-Garcia 
Never Whistle at Night: An Indigenous Dark Fiction Anthology
House of Leaves, by Mark Danielewski