How to (nicely) cut off a toxic person?

How to (nicely) cut off a toxic person?
How to (nicely) cut off a toxic person?

I’m sorry you’re experiencing someone else’s toxic behaviors. Are you worried they’ll lash out toxically if you don’t do it nicely? If so, ugh. That’s a hard position to be in. I recommend talking to your RA, and they’ll be able to refer you to people on campus who can help.

But if Sally sells seashells on the seashore,

are we sure that the shells are sea shore shells?

But if Sally sells seashells on the seashore, are we sure that the shells are sea shore shells?
But if Sally sells seashells on the seashore, are we sure that the shells are sea shore shells?

I don’t think the sale of shells at the seashore has ever been tightly regulated, and who knows what an unscrupulous shell salesperson might try to slip you (not trying to slander Sally, though, she’s an honest vendor.) I recommend being a careful buyer; why not check in one of our guides to seashells in O’Neill Library (QL400s, 3rd floor, row 80)?

What happened to the window desks on the 5th floor? Those were my favorite. ?

What happened to the window desks on the 5th floor? Those were my favorite. ?
What happened to the window desks on the 5th floor? Those were my favorite. ?

The desks themselves were taken by Facilities for donation or discard. They were replaced by bigger desks when the space was enlarged. Now more people can enjoy the view of Boston while studying. If you really miss the smaller desks and their configuration, check out the 4th floor overlooking Commonwealth Ave and Maloney Hall.

? I’m dying inside….

? I'm dying inside....
? I’m dying inside….

I’m so sorry. It sounds like you wear a smile; that can help, to a point, to trick yourself into actually becoming happier. But only to a point. Problem: it also tricks other people into thinking you don’t need support. When, clearly, you do. We all do. Please get it. If not from friends and family, then from someone skilled in listening, like a counselor: bit.ly/BC-counseling.

Brooks or Bryson?

Brooks or Bryson?
Brooks or Bryson?

We’ll all just have to wait until the plates are cleared away on Thanksgiving, won’t we? In the meantime, it’s possible all the fight will have gone out of the feud.

when is the right time to cut off a relationship?

when is the right time to cut off a relationship?
when is the right time to cut off a relationship?

It all depends on so many things. What are you expecting from the relationship? What is the other person expecting? Have you been clear with each other? Can you imagine life without their virtues? Can you imagine living with their faults? Are you capable of saying, “I’m sorry, I was wrong”? And have you said it? Are you expecting the other person to change in certain ways, or are you willing to let the other person be their authentic self, and grow and change at their own pace?

How to Help

How to help a loved [one] with depression who doesn't want to help themselves?
How to help a loved [one] with depression who doesn’t want to help themselves?

Symptoms of depression include a sense of hopelessness and an inability to concentrate or make decisions, so seeking help can be very difficult even if someone wants it. One way to be helpful is to remove or reduce any barriers that may seem overwhelming to someone who is depressed. Be very specific in what you can offer rather than generally asking “How can I help?” Ask them if they would go to an appointment if you make it for them. Ask them if they will go if you go with them.

Favorite Zayn Malik Song?

Favorite Zayn Malik Song?
Favorite Zayn Malik Song?

He’s got a wonderful growl in his voice that I like in every song, but that really comes through in Dusk to Dawn. (And as a wall, I get chills in the first verse: Can you feel where the wind is?/ Can you feel it through/ All of the windows/ Inside this room?)