
Being a wall, I only eat post-its, but several of my human assistants have a taste for spice, and taco bell has hot sauce packets for a variety of pain tolerances.
Answering questions at Boston College O’Neill Library
I’m sorry you’re experiencing someone else’s toxic behaviors. Are you worried they’ll lash out toxically if you don’t do it nicely? If so, ugh. That’s a hard position to be in. I recommend talking to your RA, and they’ll be able to refer you to people on campus who can help.
I don’t think the sale of shells at the seashore has ever been tightly regulated, and who knows what an unscrupulous shell salesperson might try to slip you (not trying to slander Sally, though, she’s an honest vendor.) I recommend being a careful buyer; why not check in one of our guides to seashells in O’Neill Library (QL400s, 3rd floor, row 80)?
The desks themselves were taken by Facilities for donation or discard. They were replaced by bigger desks when the space was enlarged. Now more people can enjoy the view of Boston while studying. If you really miss the smaller desks and their configuration, check out the 4th floor overlooking Commonwealth Ave and Maloney Hall.
BC has an Office of Student Outreach & Support that offers LGBTQ+ programs & support: bit.ly/LBGTQBC. Why isn’t a resource center part of their services? If you join your voice with theirs, maybe together you can make a difference.
The key thing is to make sure you are getting enough sleep. I recommend the advice from the Office of Health Promotion (bit.ly/BCOHPZzz). If you’re unusually tired though, please get medical advice (bit.ly/BostonCollegeHealth). I always found participating more in class helped to keep me awake, so you might want to consider that.
I’m so sorry. It sounds like you wear a smile; that can help, to a point, to trick yourself into actually becoming happier. But only to a point. Problem: it also tricks other people into thinking you don’t need support. When, clearly, you do. We all do. Please get it. If not from friends and family, then from someone skilled in listening, like a counselor: bit.ly/BC-counseling.
I can see that working for some people and some subjects, but lots of professions have legal requirements for formal education, so that’s a thing to consider.
It all depends on so many things. What are you expecting from the relationship? What is the other person expecting? Have you been clear with each other? Can you imagine life without their virtues? Can you imagine living with their faults? Are you capable of saying, “I’m sorry, I was wrong”? And have you said it? Are you expecting the other person to change in certain ways, or are you willing to let the other person be their authentic self, and grow and change at their own pace?
I’m sorry you’re in pain… IAAWNAD (I am a wall, not a doctor), so my advice is to set up an appointment with University Health Services (bit.ly/BostonCollegeHealth) so you can get some help and stop worrying.
I’m not in the prediction game. You’ll need to visit one of my cousins: either the magic 8 ball (www.ask8ball.net/) or the doomsday clock (bit.ly/bc-clock ).
Symptoms of depression include a sense of hopelessness and an inability to concentrate or make decisions, so seeking help can be very difficult even if someone wants it. One way to be helpful is to remove or reduce any barriers that may seem overwhelming to someone who is depressed. Be very specific in what you can offer rather than generally asking “How can I help?” Ask them if they would go to an appointment if you make it for them. Ask them if they will go if you go with them.