Hello wall!

Was gonna send you a post-it at 3 am at work just to keep myself awake! You serve lots of functions lol

Pleased to have been of assistance. Keeping weary scholars awake is well within the scope of my mission. I had an interesting conversation recently with an espresso macchiato about the students we meet in the middle of the night…

What is you hours like in the summer?

Pretty much returning to normal summer hours: 730am to 11pm Monday-Thursday, a little less on the weekend. You can always see the latest for all the libraries here: https://library.bc.edu/hours

I feel unlucky. How would you behave if you were gay and you lived in a country that criminalized homosexuality?

and People do not accept homosexuals? I live in this situation.

I’m so sorry you live in a situation in which being your authentic self is criminalized and not accepted. To the extent you can do so safely, reaching out to other people in your own country, or gay people outside of your country, might help. Here’s an organization that might help you do that: https://ilga.org/. I hope you can access it in your country without fear of reprisal.

Wow! I can’t believe it’s already the end of the semester… I’m so sad.

I don’t want to grow up, I don’t want to be old. I don’t want to see the campus being empty. Workaholic is a real thing… it helps you to feel numb so you don’t feel sad by the end of the semester. Thank God that I can handle working 100+ hours/wk… glad that I’m still young.:) I realized that I post something similar by the end of every semester. lol I wish we can reverse time. ><

Change is hard, but who knows what wonders the future will bring? Perhaps if you found ways to reduce your working hours, you might see more prospects for joy. 100+ hours a week really isn’t sustainable! I recommend checking out Academic Coaching for time management at the Connors Family Learning Center (bit.ly/BC-connors) when you come back in the fall or try some self-guided material from the Office of Health Promotion (bit.ly/OHPTIME).

Why are teenage boys so mean.

Boys (and girls, and maybe even fully grown adults) are works in progress. The teen years are a time of testing boundaries and figuring out who you are. In some cases, that does not result in the smartest behavior, and in some cases, not the kindest behavior either. The good news? Many of them will outgrow it and become more thoughtful. The bad news: not all of them.

I think we need more shower rooms across campus, in every building!

That would make our campus more kids friendly. Bonus – students will have more locations to cry! LoL

😢 It makes me sad that students need places to cry. But… yes. Private spaces are hard to find, and we all need them. And I think staff and faculty (especially those who bike commute, take running breaks, or just have complicated schedules) would also welcome more shower rooms. (pssst… you know about Maloney, right?)

🤫🤫🤫 Secret spot! Maybe you can build one in the library – I’m sure ppl would appreciate it during finals!

There already are many secret spots in the library (but they’re secret 😉 ). I wish we could install a shower. I’ll pass along the request.

Desperately Seeking a Man

Hello Wall, it’s me again. I have not spoken to you in a while. How are you doing my love? I hope all is well. Wall I need your advice. You know I have been talking to this wonderful man. We were suppose to meet up for pizza, but I had to cancel. Now he is ignoring me. Wall he told me that he has been cheated on in his past relationships and he feels insecure when it comes to women. Wall, what do I do? I called him, no answer. How does one deal with insecure men, I really like him. He is such a sweetheart. Thank you Wall in advance 😘! 

Hi. Doing fine, thank you, and nice to hear from you. I’m not reading “insecure” in not responding to you, but of course I don’t have the whole picture. Maybe it’s bad timing? You could maybe try reaching out in other ways than voice calling, in case he’s phone-phobic. Offer a chance to reschedule. But don’t get too wound up in the outcome, because unless he’s being held hostage the reasons why he isn’t responding aren’t as important as the fact that he isn’t. Relationships where everybody is at the same level of enthusiasm tend to work out better.

Why does BCPD carry guns?

Doesn’t that increase the chance of them hurting ppl or suicide by police? Just curious – not a plan!

I’ve had my assistants reach out for an answer, and I’ll let you know when they’ve found something out.

5/21/21: I’m sorry about the wait. BCPD has not responded yet. Perhaps in the interim you can explore arguments for and against campus police carrying guns. Here’s an article to get you started: http://bit.ly/campus-police-guns. You might also work on connecting with people and groups at BC who are calling for BCPD to change, such as the signatories in this letter published in the Heights last year: http://bit.ly/bc-faculty-justice.