Careful, if you want *me* to tell them you love them, you may end up with the same problem as Christian de Neuvillette in the play (and film, 1990 and 2022) Cyrano de Bergerac. IOW, use your own words or else risk them falling in love with the person whose words you borrow.

Okay, yes, sometimes it does. But it shouldn’t be that way all the time. I hope you find classes that excite you and make you think, activities and companions for your free time, and your own space in the library. If there are no positives in your school experience, I would suggest talking to your advisor – you may need a change of direction.

Gossip is entertaining. I won’t deny that. It can be a way of making connections with people. It can also be really toxic and hurtful. Try and think first – would this gossip be harmful to anyone?

You are so sweet for asking. I am in a committed relationship with Level 3 Entry Door, so I will have to decline your kind invitation.

Carefully!

Pretty much. It’s calling attention to the fact that you’re thinking sexually about a stranger in public. Going over and saying hello is much more appropriate if you’re interested. Otherwise, keep it to yourself.

Financially? Sounds likely. Is it the right choice for you? Possibly. I would recommend talking to your advisor and also to the Career Center bit.ly/BC-career

I’m sorry you’re suffering. When the world tries to turn people’s intrinsic worth to extrinsic value, a person’s own sense of self-worth can suffer. I recommend spending time with friends, nature, or whatever recharges you, and reflect on how you can find a sense of purpose that’s higher than what an organization assigns to your labor and time.

… the one we danced to all night long….

Your boyfriend sounds like he is trying hard, but he probably doesn’t have the training to work with you on this issue. I recommend trying again to work with University Counseling – you could ask for a 15 minute triage phone appointment to see how they can find a way to get you to talk with someone. More info about different appt. options: bit.ly/BCUCSOptions

I’m glad you wrote to me, but I need you to contact someone who isn’t a wall and is in a better position to help you get back on track. You could start with your professors and your academic advisor and be very clear the level of difficulty you are having. University Counseling Services is also a good place to contact bit.ly/BC-counseling.

There is never any good place to kill yourself. I urge you, if you are even considering this, to reach out – you can call 2–3310 and ask to with speak with the Psychological Emergency Clinician during business hours, or call the BCPD at 2-4444 at any time or there are several other contact methods here: bit.ly/EmergencyHelpBC.

Any good hardware store sells rope. Use it safely: don’t try to support more than its max weight limit, and never put it around your (or anyone else’s) neck, even in jest.

Try and figure out the times when you get locked into that cycle and see if you can redirect your attention. Example: if Instagram gets you wound up, maybe dial that back a bit or follow some different people. Also a good idea to spend some time alone, so you get a sense of who you are when other people aren’t around.

Many are. I’m sure not everyone is. But many also stretch themselves thin financially, aspiring to fit into the well-dressed & well-traveled profile. I wish that pressure weren’t so strong.

Of course, I’ve unblocked all my exes in preparation.

Thank you! I feel very appreciated when I read all the post-its – do you know I even get marriage proposals?

It depends on how you define it, but somewhere in the range of 10,00-20,000… Here’s an explanation from the Audubon Society: bit.ly/HMBirds

Your life is valued and has purpose. Trust that, and meaning will follow.

I’m a Wall Not an Investment Advisor (IAWNAIA!) Why not join the BC Investment Club (bit.ly/BCInvest) and talk with fellow students with similar interests? We also have books to help you in the HG4000 range (O’Neill Library 4th fl, row 97 and thereabouts.)