It seemed like a good idea at the time?

Drake

Only if you want to. It’s also OK to decide you want something else. No judgment here either way. But my human helpers suggest that sex with someone who does care about you can be whole levels more good.

If you kind of like it, ride with it. If this behavior becomes disturbing/unnerving, speak up!

Sounds like a great thing to work on with a peer wellness coach from the Office of Health Promotion (bit.ly/BC-wellness-coach)

Anyways, I just got a girlfriend a few weeks ago. She’s really sweet and I want to do something for her for valentine’s day. But, this ONE mutual friend is slowly ruining everything by being a “Back and forth messenger”, and because we aren’t officially dating, and plan to ask her on a date on Valentine’s day, i’m not too sure this could be a good idea. As well as the fact that some of her “friends” are incredibly annoying (She recognizes this). She’s really nice and I don’t want to ruin things, but I also don’t want to come off as socially awkward. So, to summarize: 1. How do I give her what I want for Valentine’s day without being branded as a “Simp” 2. How do I do this without any of her friends getting in the way. 3. Any other general advice to help? THANK YOU SO MUCH WALL!

To answer your questions in order: 1. Anyone who uses the word “simp” as anything other than a joke is too immature to be commenting on anyone else’s relationship. Ignore those people and do what makes you and your girlfriend happy. 2. You can choose from two options here: either politely stop commenting on your relationship to these friends so that they have nothing to use as go-betweens and they can’t do anything to interrupt your plans. Or you could decide to involve them and ask for their help planning your Valentine’s date. If it seems like they’re just over-excited for their friend, they might be excited to give you ideas for what she’d enjoy doing as a date. You also don’t need to use their ideas, sometimes just allowing someone to feel heard will help them take a step back. 3. Try not to overthink things. Dating is all about getting to know someone new and having fun together, if you put too much pressure on yourself to be perfect you can end up getting in your own way because the person you’re dating won’t be getting to know the real you. Have a fantastic Valentine’s Day, hopefully everything works out for the best!

Honestly? I’m a sucker for the musical theater genre! 🙂

Sí, Acústico!

Could very well happen; there are over 7000 alum couples according to the Alumni Association! Then again, that is a very small percentage of BC alumni.

It’s an incredibly catchy song and the horns are such a cool addition!

I’d love to point you to what many scholars have written on WWI. Head up to the 5th floor of O’Neill and look for books with “D500” through “D680” on the spine. Those are all about WWI. There are other books about WWI sprinkled throughout the collection (e.g. in literature) so swing by the reference desk (3rd floor) if you are looking for other perspectives!

Any algorithm-based dating program is likely to have its failures; it can’t really account for how real human beings interract in the real world. I’m sorry it didn’t work out for you.

❤️ Of course! I hope you don’t mind that I may have others…

The idiom people might use in America, if I’m understanding you correctly, is “A rising tide lifts all boats.” Something to keep in mind: some boats have leaks. And some people haven’t yet been welcomed into a boat. Widespread well-being follows from wealth & strength as long as people honor virtues like generosity and service.

So much love for the puppers ? ? ?

I much prefer to be loved!

κύριος Ἰησοῦς

A safe distance can protect you, but it could also isolate you. Love involves vulnerability & sometimes even doubt, but it shouldn’t involve fear.

Oh, that’s lovely! Thank you and Happy Chinese New Year to you, too!

I expect Benji values and delights in your innate qualities and spirit. But who is to say; human people fall in love for such a wide range of reasons – or no identifiable reason. Enjoy the love ❤️

To be completely honest, I had not heard of Playboi Carti before so I don’t have a favorite song of his! But that’s why I absolutely LOVE being a wall on a college campus. You all teach ME so much! Thanks for the recommendation 🙂