
There is nothing to forgive here. Being rejected means you were brave enough to put yourself on the line. Be as kind to yourself as you would be to your best friend.

Answering questions at Boston College O’Neill Library

BC is with you wherever you go in life. Keep in touch with your friends and the professors you learned important lessons from. Visit when you can, but for now, “Go, set the world on fire!” P.S. love you too. Visit me online library.bc.edu/answerwall/

I am thinking about all of you, and wishing you as little trauma, as much joy, and as much learning as possible for the remainder of the semester. I’m thinking about the difficult world situation, for which I, The Answer Wall, have no great answers. And also otters. It’s hard to not think about otters, isn’t it?


As you say, “We walk in a hurry every day, however we shouldn’t forget to stop and cry for the bodies that fell at our feet.” It’s very important to mourn, not just individually, but communally, to take a moment to mark each person’s passing. Good luck to the people of Shanghai, and good luck to every locale struggling both with a pandemic and with fumbled responses to it. You’ve said to remember the anger more deeply than the love. I disagree. Love is everything. May the memories of those everyone lost be a blessing.

It is a difficult decision. But for one thing, it is not a permanent decision. Career switching happens through life for all kinds of reasons. Why not schedule a meeting with the great people at the Career Center (bit.ly/BC-career) to talk over your options?

I think it depends – if you are interested in chatting more with this person, you can reply something simple like “Thanks!” and if you are not interested in pursuing any sort of connection it is okay to ignore the text.

Everyone is exhausted at this point in what has felt like an endless year. It is OK to drop a few things if it gives you the space to take care of yourself. If you’re feeling totally overwhelmed, BC’s Counseling Services can be very helpful: bit.ly/BC-counseling

The months with the highest birth rates in the USA are July, August, September and October. So, if you count back 9 months it seems the colder weather in late fall and early winter is more inspiring than the spring. That said, birth rates are not that different from month to month, so maybe love is always in the air.

I’m so glad to hear that you’ve been feeling better! I spend so much time reading all of your questions that I don’t read much else, but our awesome library staff have an entire page reviewing their favorite recent reads: https://libguides.bc.edu/staff-picks I’m sure you’ll find some great reads there 🙂