There’s no limit to the number of people you could fall in love with in a lifetime, and everyone’s experience is different. Some first loves might be fleeting and easy to move past, and some leave lingering heartbreak behind.

Different people heal in different ways. Take some time to feel your feelings and it’ll usually be easier to let them go. Take care of yourself (food, rest, exercise) as well as you can. Talk about it with friends if you want, or don’t.

One of the benefits of age is being able to see that there are many possible someones for everyone.

Well, hello! Delighted to meet you!

¿Pero tal vez valga la pena estudiar por amor de todos modos?

I’m sorry your love is unrequited. It must be painful. But that pain will pass with time, and you will find others to love that will also love you.

It’s a major problem for people who believe in a caring god. The theological term for this is “theodicy”, and we have lots of material on it. Here’s one classic book on the subject for starters: https://bit.ly/bc-theodicy

That’s probably human nature to judge what you hear around you, isn’t it? Hopefully you are also surrounding yourself with kind and caring folks with whom you are finding meaningful relationships!

It’s certainly a real video game. Or do you mean the concept of destiny, as in fortune, or inevitable course of events? That has at one time or another been considered quite real in many cultures. I am destined to be a wall. You are destined to be a human. Beyond that, it’s hard to say.

My day was lovely, thank you for asking!

YES!

All you can do is communicate honestly and accept her decision if she doesn’t want a relationship anymore.

Anything that is as powerful as love has the potential to cause pain, but it shouldn’t be a constant. If you are always in pain, meeting with a wellness coach (bit.ly/BC-wellness-coach) might help you to find healthier ways to have a relationship.

While I wouldn’t say she’s my muse, I’ll say yay for her and yay for Unka Jahms.

Can you imagine the kind of grief a wall would get if I started playing favorites with certain floors? Puhleeeeezzzz!

Listen more. Judge less. Help others when you can.

Kinda sounds like a plan, but I wouldn’t give up on the company of human people – they have a lot to offer, even if they’re not as graceful and beautiful as cats….

Love is lots of things, but it is rarely conveniently timed.

Oh gosh, that sounds so stressful! My best wishes to everyone working through this process!

Sometimes it feels easier to observe from a distance than to take a risk on love. But the best writing always comes from lived experience and some risks are worth taking.