Category: Random

It seems like this has been a hot topic on the wall lately. Remember, when it comes to privacy, walls are your friend! Roommates should arrange for some kind of signal. An old classic is a tie (or something) hung from a doorknob, but since cellphones and texts exist now, those are a good option. IOW, use such an event to prompt a conversation about how to avoid it happening again.

If you and your boyfriend haven’t discussed marriage before, I suggest you ask him what his views on marriage are and when he could see himself getting married. Suddenly sharing that you want to make a big life commitment without checking that he is on the same page is likely not to end well.

Hello! 

I personally don’t think “fatal fantasies” are cheating, but that’s how I interpret the song. Taylor Swift has such a way with lyrics about inner conflict. 

I’ll withhold judgement until we know more. The only version of events in the news so far is quoted from the FBI’s criminal complaint; neither Judge Hannah Dugan nor courthouse officials have spoken to the press.

I hope it was a smashing success!

I can’t make predictions but my Italian relatives inside the Sistine Chapel might be able to answer (though they go silent during Papal elections). If you are interested in the history of how Popes are chosen, I recommend the book The conclave: a sometimes secret and occasionally bloody history of papal elections (https://bit.ly/bcl-the-conclave) in our library catalog. Major news sources like the New York Times and Wall Street Journal have good coverage of the Vatican, and there are also solid Catholic publications like America (the Jesuit Review) and the National Catholic Reporter to watch for developments.

My cousin the magic 8-ball is better at prognosticating. All I can offer is a good source: bit.ly/bleacher-nba-2025. The Knicks will know tonight whether they face Boston or Orlando if they knock out Detroit. Question: would you prefer the Knicks face potential injuries with the dirty play of lower-ranked Orlando, or lose to the clean play of higher-ranked Boston?a

The thing with friends is they’re your friends even when they’re being dumb, or when you disagree with them. Be there for them. It’s OK to comment once or twice when their partner does something disrespectful. But your friend’s only going to change their mind about the relationship when they decide they want to.

Though I agree to a point with the reply, one also needs to set boundaries. If you can ride out the last few weeks, you can find a better situation for next year. Meanwhile, if you’re willing to go there & think it might have an effect, maybe a conversation with your roommate about hurtful comments would chasten her.

At the very least you’d run into problems with the computability of real numbers.

Taking a class is a great idea if you want to learn more about something. I also agree that machines can’t solve every problem (yet).

If you are a graduating, it might be helpful to remember how Boston College personally impacted you: maybe it was a friend, a club, a professor, or an event; it can be anything that has shaped the person you’ve become and what you are going out into the world to do.

One of my Gen X helpers got so excited about this question that they offered more than one to binge–check out: The Golden Girls, Murder She Wrote, Cheers, The Wonder Years, Silver Spoons, Moonlighting, Night Court, A Different World, Growing Pains, Murphy Brown, and St. Elsewhere. Happy Nesting!

This dream seems to be shared by many! Here’s the answer I gave a few months ago: My cousin the bell tower, in spite of their frequent ringing, has been mute on the subject of access since Gasson Hall’s renovation in 2007 when it was silenced temporarily. Since they aren’t talking, I’ve had my assistants poke around a little. There’s a clue in this Boston College Magazine alumni-submitted story: bit.ly/bells-clue, but as the story predates the renovation, there might not be a door ajar, and you’d probably still have to watch out for the laser-activated alarm. I recommend getting a campus job with facilities. Those folks know everything. But you’ll have to earn their trust before they share.

The TV screens I face don’t show RuPaul’s Drag Race, so I haven’t kept up with this season. However, I hear that Onya Nerve got the some of the most likes in Drag Race history on her social media, which suggests that she is the strongest likelihood.

It depends. It’s normal when you’re learning something for there to be plateaus where the daily effort feels like it’s accomplishing less. Sometimes that unlocks big changes, but sometimes you only see the cumulative effect over a long period of time. If it’s a person or a relationship you’re feeling that way about, totally different advice.

wait until the evening to do dopamine-releasing activities of any sort. game changer.

So great that works for you! For other folks it might or might not, so my unsolicited Wall advice is to take this part of your life to experiment with what works for you. Try and find the times of day when you’re naturally energetic and put your hard and thinky work there. Make space for natural low energy times. Give yourself space to find out the best time for you for what you need to get done.wait until the evening to do dopamine-releasing activities of any sort. game changer.

Stress and diet can often cause weight loss but can also be a sign of something more serious. I recommend visiting University Health Services (bit.ly/BostonCollegeHealth) or scheduling an appointment with your personal care physician to find out what’s going on. I wish you well!

I’m sorry you feel like you’re a burden. What an awful feeling! Please know that you are enough, and not obligated to be change to satisfy other people. Several of my assistants who felt anxiety was limiting their lives have benefited from counseling: bit.ly/BC-counseling.

Just part of the Boston experience. The latest snowfall on record since 1893 was May 10th, and a certain amount often falls in April.

It really depends on the situation. In general it’s a good idea not to expect any one person to meet all your emotional needs…but who they are to you matters a great deal in terms of which needs aren’t being met. Be kind to yourself first.