
Hard to choose just one, although my helpers have plenty of recommendations (bit.ly/wall-songs). I definitely have a soft spot for prog rock — particularly Pink Floyd’s The Wall.

Answering questions at Boston College O’Neill Library

Hard to choose just one, although my helpers have plenty of recommendations (bit.ly/wall-songs). I definitely have a soft spot for prog rock — particularly Pink Floyd’s The Wall.

There are a variety of possible answers to that pretty basic question in a bunch of faith traditions. Maybe start with the article in the Encyclopedia of Religion, which has a good overview of approaches: https://bit.ly/bc-theodicies. If you’re looking for a more conversational answer, “When Bad Things Happen To Good People” is a classic: https://bit.ly/bc-theodicy
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The poet Alfred, Lord Tennyson thought so, and he grieved the loss of a close friend for 17 years before arriving at that conclusion. We can all save ourselves some time with his hard-earned wisdom: ” ‘Tis better to have loved and lost/ Than never to have loved at all.” from In Memoriam, A.H.H. : bit.ly/bcl-tennyson-memoriam

I’m sorry to hear about your unhappiness here. The height of the pandemic made for hard times everywhere, but it wreaked havoc on the promise of community on college campuses. If memory would give you solace, go to library.bc.edu/answerwall, and use the date selector to go to March 2020. I find it hard to read because it evokes such sad memories, but it might be validating to see how many people shared your pain.

At the risk of being a little bit of a downer, spend a little time grieving what you’ve lost before you move on to other things. Even if if didn’t work out, even if you ended it, it was still important to you for part of your life. And take the time you need–some people move on quickly, some people need a little time to figure out who they are again when they’re not with someone. There’s no “right way” for everyone, but I do like the advice someone added.
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Time heals all wounds.

It’s hard these days, with everyone looking down at handheld screens, to strike up a conversation. Any place with people in it who share your interests is a good place to start. At BC I recommend joining a club. You can find a list of clubs here: bc.edu/osi. Or get a job at BC Dining, where you’ll automatically have something in common: a tough job: bit.ly/BC-student-jobs

Hey! Congratulations! Impostor Syndrome is real, but here’s the thing: the people who know what’s good picked you to be in it already. There is always room to improve, but try not to compare yourself to anyone but you, because I will bet half the people on the production secretly feel the way you do too. Break a leg!

I enjoy listening to the whispers of the grass after 2am when the library is otherwise silent. I don’t speak grass language, but it always sounds peaceful and relaxing. I think Walt Whitman was fluent in grass: “I loafe and invite my soul,/ I lean and loafe at my ease . . . . observing a spear of summer grass.” You can read more! It’s right over there behind you, in the display: Leaves of Grass, bookmarked just for you.

This is the definition of high-risk high-reward. If you do, you will learn one of two things. One kinda sucks in the moment but is not very different from where you are now. The other is wonderful. And from talking to my human helpers, you’re more likely to regret not knowing that answer later. Your call. Best wishes to everyone involved!

Exactly, just like in the Manga, Suki-tte ii na yo.