Category: Random

Stress is unavoidable on college campus, I am hoping you are practicing good self-care. If you feel like your stress is making it impossible to practice self-care, it may be time to talk to a BC Wellness Coach or a Counselor for a boost in support: bit.ly/BC-wellness-coach & bit.ly/BC-counseling

As the wall, I say, “Thank you.”

I always encourage people looking for friendships on campus to join a BC club (list on this page: bc.edu/osi). It’s a great way of finding people that have at least one thing in common with you. For figuring out other ways to find new friends, I recommend talking to a BC wellness coach: bit.ly/BC-wellness-coach.

Goodness is a subjective concept, but in my opinion compassion and kindess are qualities we can all strive for to be good to each other and ourselves.

DNA repair is not my strong suit, but here’s an open-access book about it: bit.ly/bcl-genome-integrity. And access (BC Community) to Science Direct articles: bit.ly/sci-dir-nhej

IDK, ask Sophia?

Just remember that you are sufficient, and you have everything you need within you. And make sure you have contact info for every friend and assure them (and yourself) you won’t let go of them. One of my library helpers is still close to college friends 35 years later.

100% Understandable. Dogs are wonderful. If possible, have a human send you daily photos, that may help!

Oooooh, IDK, but you know who can help it get easier? Tutors! bit.ly/BC-connors

It’s always good to see people share love.

It’s important to remember that loneliness is a feeling, and feelings come and go. If you’d like to be with other people: call family, call old friends, call new friends, do things with new friends. Make friends by chatting with people who live near you, or are behind you in line at the Chocolate Bar, or if you’re a BC student, by joining BC clubs that interest you. I hope one of these helps alleviate those feelings!

If you’re hungry, isn’t anything good? No, but seriously, I’ve heard the soups are all excellent, and you kind of can’t beat the salad bar at Lower (remember it’s by bowl size, not weight, so go for the heavy stuff, like fresh mozzarella or artichoke hearts!).

Missing someone is so difficult. Letting yourself feel the loss is key to being able to move forward. It is counterintuitive, but feeling sad/lonely/bittersweet helps your brain process and eventually make peace. You deserve peace.

If there’s any specific you want to know, please do let me know. In the meantime, carry on!

I can’t quite be sure what you mean, but I’ll take the opportunity to talk about a movie I liked. The library had a screening of The Farewell, directed by Lulu Wan. I haven’t stopped thinking about this heartfelt comedic drama. It is based on a true story, which made it feel very real to me.

The answer to that will vary depending on who you talk to and what they value most. Overall, from my experience listening to you all and watching life in O’Neill lobby, I have seen that human connection, taking time for each other, listening, loving one another. and living with purpose seem to rank pretty high on the important scale.

What others have said is true: not everyone expresses love the same way and not everyone easily compliments. Even if you don’t feel any reciprocation, likely your words mean a great deal to those you compliment.

Agreed!

You made my day, thank you!

Caesar’s murder happened in the immediate aftermath of a civil war and sparked another generation of civil wars, so the actual whys are debated. But in general Romans hated tyrants, and one of Brutus’s ancestors had murdered the last of the Roman kings. If you want to get into the details I recommend this chapter in the Blackwell Companion to Juluis Caesar (bit.ly/bcl-caesar-assassination), which will point you to various interpretations and the ancient source material. (p.s. The line from Shakespeare’s Julius Caesar is “Et tu, Brute?” (“even you, Brutus?”). Plutarch has him say “kai su, o techne?” (“even you, my son?”)

Sigh… I’ve long been bedeviled by being in absolute last place in the Boston Marathon (I entered in 1985 and still haven’t even started!) so I get it. A wall will never break speed records. If it’s something you love, do it anyway, but don’t stake an income (or perhaps grades) on it. If you don’t love it, let it go and admire those who are good at it.

I haven’t watched that show, but I’ve heard good things.