
<3 for you, <3 for all!



Answering questions at Boston College O’Neill Library

<3 for you, <3 for all!



My helper is typing up this answer on a computer whose microchips involve quantum mechanics, and looking at the words on an LED screen which does too. But there’s really no way to know unless you take the class. Except that once you do, that changes the experimental conditions. It’s complicated. Here, read about a cat. http://bit.ly/bc-qm

I think you’re probably fine, whatever your sign. Do you mean that you have characteristics attributed to Gemini in astrology books? Take a look at some of the books on the 5th floor in the BF 1700 range; you might find some wisdom there.

I recommend you let OISS know directly by emailing them. I’m sure they’re hearing different perspectives on this issue. For those not in the know, the Office of International Students and Scholars at BC (bc.edu/offices/oiss) reports on numbers of students from different countries. Currently, the data differentiates the People’s Republic of China (PRC) from Hong Kong, Macau, and Taiwan; the PRC officially does not recognize these entities as separate from the PRC.


It’s not just BC, mental health services at lots of schools are having trouble keeping up with increasing need for their services. http://bit.ly/bc-mental. WGBH also has a recent series on mental health at local schools http://bit.ly/bc-mental2. The suggestions above my note are solid ones that you can use immediately. And I see you. You are not alone.

These are good ideas! I’ll see if my assistants can bring back my sidekick.


First, let go of feeling responsibility for her reaction. It may sound cold & unfeeling, but you aren’t responsible anyone’s feelings but your own. That said, you can present your concerns in ways that are less or more effective or compassionate. Start with “I” statements; describe how you reacted & felt. Avoid “you” statements, which will be perceived as accusatory and likely encourage defensiveness. Finally, before you talk, clarify for yourself what your precise concerns are, and what you’re looking for in a response.

Clichéd as it sounds, you should get married when you and your partner both feel ready to make such a massive commitment. Relationships are very unique, so while there may be common trends, (age, societal standing, peer pressure, etc.) it’s fundamentally important that you are comfortable with the idea.

I’m really sorry to hear that. I recommend visiting counseling services (bit.ly/counseling). They can assess your situation and provide counseling and advice, and should be able to provide guidance about what you can do for your brother. (((((Wall Hug)))))

Talk to someone at the financial aid office. They should have some useful advice about next steps: bit.ly/bc-fin-aid.

Ideally, communicating about your doubts will give you a better idea about what decision you should make. In regards to the future, what you see may be very different from what he sees. Discussing what you both want from your relationship hopefully leads to you making an informed decision about your futures.

The responses are in Courier, derived from the font created for IBM selectric typewriters in the 1950’s. One of my other favorite fonts is a recent one: UglyGerry. Go to UglyGerry.com to see it for yourself, or @UglyGerry on Twitter.

One possibility is to think of it as a challenge, and all challenges are character-building. What you do to adapt to the flaw becomes part of your character – perhaps even one of the best parts of your character – that you wouldn’t have without the flaw. In essence, turn the “flaw” into a source of growth, something that anyone without that flaw doesn’t get to experience. Another possibility: recognize that everyone has limitations of one kind or another, many of them invisible. IOW, you aren’t alone in the challenge of accepting yourself as you are.

The “sculpture” is actually display shelving designed and built by Prof. Mark Cooper. Students in the ceramics classes will be displaying their artwork on the shelves. The exhibit will be up from Nov 18th to mid-December.

I don’t know! But I can have my assistants find out.

I’m not sure if you’ll get the results you’re hoping for in about a month’s time, but initiative is key.

Not sure what you’re asking, but I am strongly in favor.

Mine do too; ridiculously stupid happy. Revel in it!

It’s beautiful, useful, and necessary. I know some folks differ on this opinion, but they are just misguided, confused, and wrong. 😉

One of my helpers had a chat with Maureen Burke in the Dean’s Office (Gasson 103), and she said that while there’s no policy about this, if you want to take out a book, just bring it to the office and she will OK it. However, I should add that the Gasson Commons is currently closed until the 16th.


A recent post had the math dept. restroom (with shower!) on a bucket list, so it must be pretty special. It also has the virtue of being nearby… which could be the most important criterium when it’s, uh, urgent.