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Missing someone is so difficult. Letting yourself feel the loss is key to being able to move forward. It is counterintuitive, but feeling sad/lonely/bittersweet helps your brain process and eventually make peace. You deserve peace.
Answering questions at Boston College O’Neill Library
I can’t quite be sure what you mean, but I’ll take the opportunity to talk about a movie I liked. The library had a screening of The Farewell, directed by Lulu Wan. I haven’t stopped thinking about this heartfelt comedic drama. It is based on a true story, which made it feel very real to me.
The answer to that will vary depending on who you talk to and what they value most. Overall, from my experience listening to you all and watching life in O’Neill lobby, I have seen that human connection, taking time for each other, listening, loving one another. and living with purpose seem to rank pretty high on the important scale.
What others have said is true: not everyone expresses love the same way and not everyone easily compliments. Even if you don’t feel any reciprocation, likely your words mean a great deal to those you compliment.
Agreed!
You made my day, thank you!
Caesar’s murder happened in the immediate aftermath of a civil war and sparked another generation of civil wars, so the actual whys are debated. But in general Romans hated tyrants, and one of Brutus’s ancestors had murdered the last of the Roman kings. If you want to get into the details I recommend this chapter in the Blackwell Companion to Juluis Caesar (bit.ly/bcl-caesar-assassination), which will point you to various interpretations and the ancient source material. (p.s. The line from Shakespeare’s Julius Caesar is “Et tu, Brute?” (“even you, Brutus?”). Plutarch has him say “kai su, o techne?” (“even you, my son?”)
Sigh… I’ve long been bedeviled by being in absolute last place in the Boston Marathon (I entered in 1985 and still haven’t even started!) so I get it. A wall will never break speed records. If it’s something you love, do it anyway, but don’t stake an income (or perhaps grades) on it. If you don’t love it, let it go and admire those who are good at it.
Maybe Ocean’s X (where x=how many in the group). But my best reco is to ask the group! What are your shared interests? Favorite characters, places, or objects in films, music, novels, anime, or other artists? Political groups? Crime syndicates? Galaxies? Combinations thereof? (e.g. Maltese Millennium Falcon)
Every heartbreak feels terrible, no matter how many you have lived through. Feel your feelings. Make fun plans for the future. Don’t miss meals. And, if you find you need more TLC please don’t forget our friends in the Counseling Office. They are trained to help us all move through these human experiences that can be so hard to recover from.
Although he has been dealt a tough hand, ETH has demonstrated he is not up to the job. He is tactically naive and his reliance on signing players he has worked with before has led to some terrible editions to the squad (Anthony, Van Der Beek etc…). United will not improve until they bring in a new manager, develop a more intelligent recruitment system and accept that teams are no longer worried about a visit to Old Trafford.
I’m so sorry you’re feeling lonely! I don’t have arms, so I hope this hug emoji helps: ? To find people who share your interests, I recommend joining BC clubs that interest you (list on this page: bc.edu/osi). For figuring out other ways to find new friends, I recommend talking to a BC wellness coach: bit.ly/BC-wellness-coach. In the meantime, keep in mind that in one way you’re not alone: lonely is a feeling that comes and goes even for people with friends.
Oh, there are so many good ones! One of my helpers suggests exploring: Global Black French Studies (HIST(251301), History of Architecture (ARTH(110701), and History of Photography (ARTH(228501). Good luck!