Do you know Maria Sanchez?

Do you know Maria Sanchez?

I’m not sure who you mean exactly, but I do know of María Sánchez the footballer! I hear she’s playing forward for the Tigres these days, after playing in the NWSL for a while. I hope the switch goes well for her!

I graduated 4 years ago and it’s so surreal being back…

I graduated 4 years ago and it's so surreal being back... Nothing and everything have changed... I wasso profoundly unhappy during so much of my time on campus (partially because of COVID) it's hard to imagine that I can stand here feeling calm & grounded!
I graduated 4 years ago and it’s so surreal being back… Nothing and everything have changed… I wasso profoundly unhappy during so much of my time on campus (partially because of COVID) it’s hard to imagine that I can stand here feeling calm & grounded!

I’m sorry to hear about your unhappiness here. The height of the pandemic made for hard times everywhere, but it wreaked havoc on the promise of community on college campuses. If memory would give you solace, go to library.bc.edu/answerwall, and use the date selector to go to March 2020. I find it hard to read because it evokes such sad memories, but it might be validating to see how many people shared your pain.

How do I get over my ex?

How do I get over my ex? Read a lot, exercise, make art, talk to your friends, learn a new language
How do I get over my ex? Read a lot, exercise, make art, talk to your friends, learn a new language

At the risk of being a little bit of a downer, spend a little time grieving what you’ve lost before you move on to other things. Even if if didn’t work out, even if you ended it, it was still important to you for part of your life. And take the time you need–some people move on quickly, some people need a little time to figure out who they are again when they’re not with someone. There’s no “right way” for everyone, but I do like the advice someone added.

Yess [up arrow] you will get over that person trust!! Just give yourself time :)
Yess [up arrow] you will get over that person trust!! Just give yourself time 🙂

So where to make new friends?

So where to make new friends?
So where to make new friends?

It’s hard these days, with everyone looking down at handheld screens, to strike up a conversation. Any place with people in it who share your interests is a good place to start. At BC I recommend joining a club. You can find a list of clubs here: bc.edu/osi. Or get a job at BC Dining, where you’ll automatically have something in common: a tough job: bit.ly/BC-student-jobs

What are your thoughts on the talking grass?

what are your thoughts on the talking grass? (the one across the way) Do y'all chat it up? If so, what has the grass said to do? What have you said in return?
what are your thoughts on the talking grass? (the one across the way) Do y’all chat it up? If so, what has the grass said to do? What have you said in return?

I enjoy listening to the whispers of the grass after 2am when the library is otherwise silent. I don’t speak grass language, but it always sounds peaceful and relaxing. I think Walt Whitman was fluent in grass: “I loafe and invite my soul,/ I lean and loafe at my ease . . . . observing a spear of summer grass.” You can read more! It’s right over there behind you, in the display: Leaves of Grass, bookmarked just for you.

Should I tell Kayla I love her?

Should I tell Kayla I love her?
Should I tell Kayla I love her?

This is the definition of high-risk high-reward. If you do, you will learn one of two things. One kinda sucks in the moment but is not very different from where you are now. The other is wonderful. And from talking to my human helpers, you’re more likely to regret not knowing that answer later. Your call. Best wishes to everyone involved!