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I love these critters. Thank you for leaving me a delightful little treat. I wish I could pet them.
Answering questions at Boston College O’Neill Library
Have your friend visit the counseling center (or call 617-552–3310, extension 2) right away and ask for a Psychological Emergency Clinician (PEC). More info: bit.ly/bc-pec. If you’re interested in longer-term skills & training for suicide prevention, this mental health & wellness page has strategies and training opportunities: bit.ly/bc-mental-health-wellness.
Treat it like real grief, because it is. There’s no set timetable for processing a loss, you sort of have to work through it. Talk to friends about what you miss. Do things that make you happy, even if you’re not sure they will right now. Feel your feelings and you’ll move on when you’re ready.
What are you most excited about? I’ve heard it’s good to find side-hustles based on your interest or on your time. Restaurants are often a good option, but there are summer historical tours, internships, tutoring, and all sorts of outside options like lifeguards or yard work.
It seems like this has been a hot topic on the wall lately. Remember, when it comes to privacy, walls are your friend! Roommates should arrange for some kind of signal. An old classic is a tie (or something) hung from a doorknob, but since cellphones and texts exist now, those are a good option. IOW, use such an event to prompt a conversation about how to avoid it happening again.
If you and your boyfriend haven’t discussed marriage before, I suggest you ask him what his views on marriage are and when he could see himself getting married. Suddenly sharing that you want to make a big life commitment without checking that he is on the same page is likely not to end well.