Attending any university is a rare experience, putting you in the top 7% of education worldwide. BC is ranked # 32. With ~325,000 other people at schools ranked higher than BC, and 21.5 million people in the college age group, you’re in the top ~1.6% of your age group in the US for education. 98.4% of your age group in the US hasn’t had the opportunity you’ve had. That should be humbling. In light of your knowledge of this privilege, work to make the world a better place. That understanding of privilege, and an imperative to help those less fortunate, is the bedrock of the Jesuit faith that guides BC. Find a job that helps those with less. Volunteer with groups that help disadvantaged people. Donate money, if you have it, to good causes. And in your daily life, when interacting with people, understand that many of them haven’t had your opportunities and experiences to grow their perspectives and become who they could be if they had just been given a chance. Have patience and love and compassion for everyone you meet. And congratulations and best of luck in all you do! I’m sure you’ll set the world aflame.
Do you like University of Toronto? Why? or why not?
As a wall at a major university, I am a huge fan of institutions of higher education. Toronto is frequently rated as one of the top universities globally, and it has one of the largest library collections in North America. Also, a dear relative, Living Wall, who is deeply involved in environmental issues, lives and works there . Here’s her picture – isn’t she stunning? bit.ly/MyCousinLivvy
Why women get paid 20% less than man?
There are several reasons; the American Association of University Women (AAUW) mentions gender bias, discrimination, job tenure, education level, work experience, hours worked, college major, geographical region, and race and ethnicity as some of the factors that account for the gender pay gap. (bit.ly/AAUW-pay-gap) The referenced page has FAQs on the subject; for more details look for the link to “The Simple Truth to the Gender Pay Gap.”
Should I major in English? What can I do with an English major?
If you want to, there’s plenty to do with it. Journalism and tech writing are popular choices, but there are lots of options. The Wall is fond of the Great Jobs for <Blank> Majors series–here’s the one for English: bit.ly/bc-english. The BC Career Center also has lots of resources to help you explore that, and you can talk to a counselor to make sure you’re on track. bit.ly/CareerCtrMajors
How do I become a published author?
Well, one way is to be a Wall, and invite people to ask questions: my answers are published here daily! But I think you mean you want your books sold at bookstores or articles in magazines. Start by learning the craft of writing: take a writing workshop or journalism course here at BC, or at grubstreet.org. Write. A lot. (Get a job as a stringer at a local newspaper to get lots of practice!) Send pieces to magazines or literary journals (subscribe to writersmarket.com for listings & how-to, &/or browse the Novel & Short Story Writer’s Market at the O’Neill Reference Desk: PN3355 .F47). If you have a plan for a non-fiction book or have finished a novel, get a literary agent (O’Neill PN163 .G853) to try to land a publishing deal. Or just go your own way: self-publish via Amazon, and be ready to do a lot of self-promotion! Best of luck!
I want to adopt a dog right when I graduate but I’m worried I won’t be able to afford it- What do you think?
You are wise to be considering the cost (and responsibility) that comes with pet ownership. Having a dog is obviously very enjoyable and beneficial to some people, but if you are considering it, try coming up with an expected budget first to see whether it seems manageable. Be sure to include both day-to-day costs (food, supplies, check ups, etc.) and periodic costs (medical issues, increased rent or pet deposits, pet sitting costs, etc.). Does that amount seem manageable? If so, you can go into dog adoption with confidence. If it seems like you can’t afford it, consider other options. Can you pet sit or dog walk for friends? How about volunteering at a shelter or rescue organization? No matter the format, I hope you are able to find a rewarding (and affordable!) way to spend lots of times with dogs!
Should I confess through poetry before graduating?
If you think this would help you grow or be rewarding in some way, absolutely! There’s a long tradition of confessional poetry; the first to be labeled as such was Robert Lowell, a selection of whose poems you can find in O’Neill Library at call number PS3523.O89 A17 1976.
Am I doing the right thing or shall I make a big change?
The Wall cannot say. Trust your instincts, you’ll be fine.
What is the optimal attitude/disposition that a person graduating college should have?
Many qualities will help, but the central one is a commitment to honesty. After you graduate, you’ll get the indescribable pleasure of your work & life having real impact on others, not just grade impacts on you. The flip side is the anxiety of unanticipated impacts: sometimes things don’t go as planned. Being the best you involves conflicting attitudes: bring the confidence & boldness when it’s time to act, persistence when things don’t go as planned, humility and flexibility when you need to ask for help and change plans, and adaptability and teachability when it’s time to grow. Why is honesty central? You can only understand a situation, other people, or yourself when you assess honestly, and you have to understand a situation to know which attitude to bring to it.
What should I do if I keep being rejected from student organizations?
It must be frustrating and discouraging to put a lot of time into something and feel like your efforts weren’t valued. When you say “rejected,” do you mean you weren’t offered leadership positions? These things can take time, and aren’t always a measure of your worth to the organization. I recommend patience and resilience. I also recommend talking to the Office of Student Involvement about your experiences: www.bc.edu/osi. They may be able to offer new strategies or perspectives.
Come si fa per avere successo nella vita?
Mangia!
What should I do if I’m really really depressed…I want to take a gap year :(
First I will say that if you’re depressed, I highly recommend talking to someone about those feelings. They are natural, common, and you deserve as much happiness as anyone else in the world. BC counseling (bit.ly/BC-counseling) can help you work through some of what you’re feeling. As for a gap year, that’s not necessarily a bad idea. Taking some time away from school may help you re-focus and provide a broader context for your studies. If you do decide to take a gap year, I recommend trying to make the best of the time by working in a field you’re interested in or gaining other quality life experiences.
Should we move to Colorado?
Depends on what’s in Colorado. Good job? Fresh start? Skiing? Colorado is a great state, but moving somewhere without a plan is usually a bad idea. Also, consider where in Colorado you’d be moving. Do you want to live in a city or somewhere more rural? One way to figure some of this out might be to make a visit out to the area you want to move to for a week or 2 and see how well you like it.
Do you think it’s worth it to become a certified vet-tech and work before applying to vet school but after I graduate from BC?
I think it depends on your reasons for becoming a vet-tech first. If you want to take this path to help you decide whether you want to be a veterinarian, I think it is definitely worthwhile. It is always good to explore a career first if you are unsure of it (though you might also see whether you can instead get an internship). If you are doing this to help pay for veterinary school or to help you get into a good school, it might also be worthwhile, but in both of those cases, the Career Center can provide more knowledgeable advice than I can. Stop by their drop-in sessions here at the library on Wednesdays & Thursdays 2-4 (Level 3 consultation area) or check out their website: bit.ly/BC-career.
Why am I here as a 2nd semester senior? WTF
Why are you in the library? Hey, you asked the right Wall – I am hardly ever anyplace else (though I am presenting at a conference in May, no kidding!) There are so many opportunities here, to learn about anything, to find some peace, or even to get advice at Career Center drop-in sessions Wednesday & Thursday 2-4 (Level 3 consultation area), if you’re thinking about what comes next. This is the place to be.
Where is my PhD acceptance letter?
While my wall-friends in admissions do hear some interesting conversations, they tend to keep mum when I ask them for specifics. Or are you asking for about another school? Either way, I’m afraid I don’t have an answer for this one. But I do wish you lots of luck!
Should I drop out and move to Wyoming?
Dropping out is a big decision, not to be taken lightly. Why not take a semester or one year leave of absence and try out Wyoming? That way, you can come back to BC if Wyoming turns out to be bleak and inhospitable, or stay if you can’t imagine leaving the “big country.” I recommend talking to your adviser. I’d reckon your parents might also have something to say, but you’re also an adult; this is your decision.
How do I leave a better world for my children?
Whatever you envision as a better world, make at least part your career and what you do outside of work hours part of it. And bring your children along so they can see how it’s done. And talk about it with them. Children are wise and curious, and will soon grow up to become people asking (we hope) this same question.
I’m a touring high school student. Why BC?
Because: 1. you’ve looked at BC’s mission (bit.ly/BC-mission) and it’s a close fit with your values, 2. people you like and respect went to BC and loved their experience and think it would be right for you, 3. the mix of available majors (bit.ly/BC-academics) fits with your goals and aspirations, 4. it just feels right, 5. BC Libraries (library.bc.edu) totally rock & you want to spend a lot of time here.
What is the best possible thing one could do while on Spring Break?
Fall in love? Make a really big difference in someone’s life by helping them overcome a major problem of some kind? Broker a peace deal in the Middle East that satisfies all parties? Or maybe you should just take a vacation, which means disburdening yourself of the need to do the best possible thing.