How do I rekindle my relationship?

How do I rekindle my relationship?
How do I rekindle my relationship?

I found love in the HQ801s, up on the fourth floor. But I’m not sure you’d find an easy answer there. Skimming through relationship advice columns, I culled some pointers: listen actively, learn new things about your partner, watch romantic movies together… And give it some time – feelings ebb and flow.

Do you think Migos is better than the Beatles?

Do you think Migos is better than the Beatles?
Do you think Migos is better than the Beatles?

Apples & oranges, or if we’re can compare record labels, Apple and Quality Control Music. If you’re going to go comparing remarkably different pop music groups, you’ll have to define what you mean by “better.” More popular? Reviewed more favorably? Broader appeal? More musically diverse? More musically unified? More culturally embedded? More culturally challenging? You might also want to give Migos some time to establish themselves… the Beatles have had a 50 year head start for their music to infiltrate every nook and cranny of the world.

Why did the Administration cancel the Romance Language Floor in Vouté?

Why did the Administration cancel the Romance Language Floor in Vouté?
Why did the Administration cancel the Romance Language Floor in Vouté?

According to the article in the Heights yesterday (bit.ly/VouteRomanceIsGone), the administration decided too few students were benefiting from the program to justify the resources necessary to keep it going. Sounds like many students are quite unhappy about this; I think it’s a good idea to let the decision-makers know how their decisions impact you.

Hi Wall R u religious?

Hi Wall R u religious?
Hi Wall R u religious?

You should read my bio on answerwall.domain.bc.edu. I am not merely religious; I have acolytes. No, but seriously. I am religious, but I’m a little private about such things. It’s easy to get caught up in Wall mysticism: walls protect, and yet we also divide. Suffice it to say I believe everyone has the capacity to be and do good for themselves and others by being generous with knowledge & love.

Could you recommend a good book of personal essays (an author you like)?

Could you recommend a good book of personal essays (an author you like)?
Could you recommend a good book of personal essays (an author you like)?

I don’t know your interests, so I’ll recommend several. For humorous & honest essays about writing, it’s hard to beat Anne Lamott’s Bird by Bird: Some Instructions on Writing and Life (O’Neill PN147 .L315 1994). For intriguing & dreamlike essays about personal growth, art, and the loss of a difficult mother: The Faraway Nearby, by Rebecca Solnit. (O’Neill PS3569.O585 Z46 2013) For powerful essays about race, either the well-known Between the World & Me, by Ta Nehisi Coates (BC Libraries, check catalog for many listings) or the lesser-known but equally powerful How to Slowly Kill Yourself and Others in America, by Kiese Laymon (O’Neill PS3612.A959 Z46 2013), both of which owe a major debt to James Baldwin’s The Fire Next Time (O’Neill & TML E185.61 .B195 1993). If any are unavailable, any other books by these authors are worth pursuing. Happy reading!

I don’t think I belong here in BC

I don't think I belong here in BC
I don’t think I belong here in BC

I’m sorry you’re feeling that way – it’s hard to feel like you don’t belong. Depending on your reasons for thinking you don’t belong, you may want to speak to your academic advisor, Advising Center staff (bit.ly/BC-advising), or Counseling Services ( bit.ly/BC-counseling). I hope that they are able to give you a reason to stay, but if you find your best option is to transfer, I wish you all the best!

Who makes the music playlist in Mac?

Who makes the music playlist in Mac?
Who makes the music playlist in Mac?

My assistants have tracked down an answer! Music is played in McElroy during dinner, though some late-night managers also choose to play music. The dinner and late night managers in McElroy get to choose it; they usually stream either a YouTube set list or Pandora. The choice is entirely up to them, as long as it’s appropriate.

Why is BC willing to ignore all of its Jesuit values when dealing with the grad student union?

Why is BC willing to ignore all of its Jesuit values when dealing with the grad student union?
Why is BC willing to ignore all of its Jesuit values when dealing with the grad student union?

That would be a good question to ask Father Leahy. BC’s public position is similar to arguments made by Columbia (bit.ly/bc-columbia) recently. A BC FAQ (bit.ly/bc-unionfaq) addresses questions about Catholic social teaching and other issues from the administration’s perspective. The BC Graduate Student Employees Union addresses those issues this way: bit.ly/bc-grad-union. You might also be interested in the work of the Catholic Labor Network (bit.ly/bc-CLN), and this brief history of Catholic institutions and collective bargaining in America: The Jesuit Review (bit.ly/bc-am).

How would I find a boyfriend as a guy?

How would I find a boyfriend as a guy?
How would I find a boyfriend as a guy?

While there are places and apps that make hooking up easy, they don’t work well for someone trying to find a meaningful same-sex relationship. The best way to find a partner is the same for any gender configuration– join groups that bring together people that share your interests or ask friends to introduce you to potential mates. Above all be casual about the process; it always takes longer than you want. Just remember that there is someone out there who is also looking for you, and you will find each other. You might start with BC resources: bit.ly/BCLGBTQ and even the Commonwealth has a website for LGBTQ youth: bit.ly/MA-lgbtq

Is carrot season over?

Is carrot season over?
Is carrot season over?

Vegetable availability often relies on the region you live in – in the North East, carrots are technically a fall season crop, harvested between late July and mid-December. However, carrots are usually available in shops all year round since farmers are able to protect their crops from frost and harvest them during the winter season as well. Additionally, they can be shipped in from other regions when the local harvest is over. You should be able to find carrots quite easily at your local grocer’s or market.

O que é melhor: churrasco ou feijoada?

O que é melhor: churrasco ou feijoada?
O que é melhor: churrasco ou feijoada?

Well, I have to say I LOVE both. In fact, I am not sure I would choose one over the other. Instead, I would go with a feijoada com churrasco de Chão e farofa… Ah, e uma caipirinha feita com uma boa cachaça… Simplesmente delicioso!

Should I go to Ecuador?/Will my parents let me by Feb 5? Who knows!

Should I go to Ecuador?/Will my parents let me by Feb 5? Who knows!
Should I go to Ecuador?/Will my parents let me by Feb 5? Who knows!

Ecuador sounds like a great adventure. If I weren’t so attached to the Library, I’d book a seat and go with you! I don’t think I know your parents, so in response to your second question, I have to agree… who knows! Just read up on safety and health precautions so you arrive prepared. The U.S. State Department travel site is a great place to start your research. Go to: bit.ly/usdos-ecuador

Why does BCPD claim off campus housing isn’t their territory when we are scared of robberies yet they camp out there on weekends to bust parties?

Why does BCPD claim off campus housing isn't their territory when we are scared of robberies yet they camp out there on weekends to bust parties?
Why does BCPD claim off campus housing isn’t their territory when we are scared of robberies yet they camp out there on weekends to bust parties?

You’ll get some chances to ask BCPD directly: BCPD is planning to carry out a series of “knock & talks” among off-campus dwellings in conjunction with the Boston Police Dept. The first ones are actually tonight (Wednesday, 2/21). That might be a good time to ask about patrols & parties. There will also be a “Police & Pizza” event tomorrow (2/22) at 2150 Comm Ave, 5-7pm: bit.ly/BCPD-pizza-feb22.

Here is some coverage in The Heights about the BCPD/BPD initiatives & outreach about break-ins among off-campus housing: bit.ly/BC-break-ins

How do I ask someone to be my Valentine?

How do I ask someone to be my Valentine?

Think of all the risks, and become more comfortable with them. Then just dive in, and say, “Will you be my valentine?” Some kind of object imbued with human sentiments of romance (chocolates, flowers… or perhaps a book, for bookish types…) might sweeten the deal.