Author: Answer Wall

I made my own little wall because I really liked this one. It’s just for my friends and I, but instead of having just one “Wall” answer them It can be anyone, we just added comments. So far, it has a really good effect, everyone is telling me how much they love it! It helps us share our emotions with each other, because we usualy keep our feelings on the inside. So thank you so much for the idea!

I love love love that a wall is helping you and your friends to open up and communicate! I recommend you plan in advance for how you will manage discord or inappropriate comments – even among friends this can happen. Oh, and say “hi” to your little wall for me and tell them I’m proud of them!

*blushes* We certainly try. Thank you!

If it’s interfering with relationships or with any other aspects of your life, or you simply want to stop and can’t, I’d recommend talking to a professional. If you’re a BC student: bit.ly/BC-counseling.

I thought that is what usual people feel like and it keeps you safe, but I just start to realize that I’m quite different in that way… I’m confused and scared of this weird world. >.< I mean I don’t think there is anything wrong or weird if other people identify that way, but I start to realize how others see me as different? Human world is just very difficult to understand, sometimes you wish you are a unicorn.

I agree that the human world is hard to understand. I’m sure unicorns have troubles of their own, though, sadly. There are certainly varying degrees of sexual intensity, and that’s also apt to change throughout life. If you find fear about your sexuality or difference hinders living a full life, I recommend talking to a counselor about it. If you’re a BC student, you can get started at bit.ly/BC-counseling.

Charge!!!

Regardless of whether or not BC blocks your system access, you should change your password for your own security.

Regardless of whether or not BC blocks your system access, you should change your password for your own security.

No worries.

It’s like that common dream, where you forgot about a class for the whole semester, and then you show up, and there’s a test…. ?

There’s been an explosion in the number and sub genres/types of comics (including very explicit ones like BL) available in recent years, and its popularity as a reading format for adults is very high. Your question ended abruptly, so I am not sure what you don’t know – can you elaborate?

I don’t know what and I don’t know how. I live with a roommate and I used to be very secret about my ‘privacy’ (What I watch on the Internet and what I do while watching, if you know what I mean) but something like a week ago I suddenly stopped carrying. I can’t really explain why and it seems so weird to me, because I really hide what I do. Do you know what might caused that sudden change in my attitude towards my ‘privacy’?

Hard to say without knowing more. Maybe you trust your roommate? Maybe you’re shedding habitual self-consciousness or shame? That said, it’s important that living arrangements are built on trust and communication. It would be wise to check in with your roommate about their comfort level with your activities: “Hey, does it bug you when I…” and if it doesn’t, “If you change your mind, tell me, I can change when & where, etc.”

I use it as a way to self-judge my actions perhaps… I have been doing it for a long time and it feels kind of normal to be honest, but at the same time as something not many, if at all besides me, do.

Yes, that’s normal. It’s one way to enact a conscience. If overdone, it could constrain you from doing things that are fulfilling or important for you. If you find those thoughts intrusive, constraining, or limiting and would like to stop but can’t, I recommend talking to a counselor who could help you find new ways to think about what you do. If you’re at BC: bit.ly/BC-counseling Otherwise, know it’s just a normal thing many minds do & don’t worry about it.

How about Scot’s “Discoverie of Witchcraft,” published in 1584? (O’Neill Library BF1565 .S42 1972) The witch-craze that swept the New England colonies happened about 100 years *after* this book debunking witchcraft, which is weird. Perhaps the Malleus Maleficarum (Theology & Ministry Library, BF1569.A2 I5 1971), the sine qua non of demonology first published in 1486, was just more popular. As an upstanding wall, I think it’s weird that humans enjoy the thrill of fear more than the satisfactions of rationality.

…and we have been chatting for a while now (not as regular as I could imagine, but still enough to be counted as an active contact), and from his messages, I some-how think he may like me too. My question is if I think he is attracted to me too because I want it to be so (and reality can be a whole lot different), or if this can be really going somewhere. And what really makes me have many other questions is, that I am male too and am not sure in what way I am attracted to him, so do you mind telling giving me suggestions so that I can make the barrier between friendship and sexual relationship? (Note: I am not planning on being honest with him about this spectrum of my feelings.)

If you have more questions than answers regarding your attraction to this person, you are right to be cautious about sharing your feelings.  I suggest treating this relationship as just a friendship until you are clearer about your feelings (or he clarifies his).  The process of building a strong friendship will likely answer many of your questions and will be a great start if the relationship becomes more than just friends.

Now I’m sure that it’s true, ’cause I think you’re so good and I’m nothing like you.

Rebecca, is that you?

I endorse this kind of positivity 100%!

There sure has been something rather odd about this whole year – I’m not surprised Christmas also feels different.  But I hope you managed a peaceful and restful break.

Meow Meow Meow ???!

I want to make something healty for dinner, but I have no idea how to cook… or what to cook!

Don’t stress, cooking is easier than you think, and you don’t need a whole lot of ingredients to make something great. Example: http://bit.ly/bc-dinner1. Food YouTube is essentially bottomless, but lots of it is made for people with a lot of cooking experience. I’ll recommend a couple channels I like for American (http://bit.ly/bc-dinner2) and Asian (http://bit.ly/bc-dinner3), but you can also just search for whatever kind of food you like. Start small, and if you pick a starch, a protein, and a vegetable or two you’ll be fine. Good luck!

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For sure! Please give him a scratch behind the ears for me.

Why do some people get offended so easily by small things ? And why do some people stand for others people’s ground even if they are so in the wrong.

According to a recent article in Frontiers in Psychology (bit.ly/OffendedCauses), taking offense results from a mix of triggers to one’s honor, self-image and sense of personal values. As for defending other people’s views, some of this may stem from the desire to support a friend (as a wall, I get this), some from the need to save face when you’ve taken a (misguided) stand, and some of you human people just like to be argumentative and stir things up.