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Which is worse? Person A who looked at Person B’s phone w/o his permission Or Person B who actually is doing something Shady and got caught by A? A&B are dating polyamorously

Which is worse? Person A who looked at Person B’s phone w/o his permission Or Person B who actually is doing something Shady and got caught by A? A&B are dating polyamorously

If two people have mutually agreed to be in a polyamorous relationship, then having a relationship with another person isn’t “shady” at all. Although they may have rules about openness and honesty that are being violated. It sounds like at least one person in the relationship isn’t actually comfortable with the polyamory, which is something they may want to discuss. However, if the relationship truly is polyamorous, then snooping would be a violation of trust and privacy. It is possible for both people to be at fault here: Person A for snooping and Person B for cheating (if the relationship isn’t an open one). Both need to take responsibility for their actions if they want the relationship to move past this.

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What does a guy have to do around here to get a snow day?

What does a guy have to do around here to get a snow day?
What does a guy have to do around here to get a snow day?

The Wall believes the weather has to be hazardous to humans, rather than just annoying, for BC to close. You can also try one of the snow day superstitions, such as sleeping with your pajamas on backwards, a spoon under the pillow, or flushing an ice cube down the toilet. (Though I wouldn’t count on it!) Ask again if you’d like a more detailed answer.

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Can we get a hot water boiler in the library please

Can we get a hot water boiler in the library please... AGREED!!
Can we get a hot water boiler in the library please… AGREED!!

You are not the first to request this. Library staff met with people to determine the logistics and cost. Apparently it is not so simple or cheap. I’ll forward your request and try to start the conversation yet again, even if I end up IN hot water rather than supplying it.

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Hi powerful Wall, Do u know what is WMD short for :)

Hi powerful Wall, Do u know what is WMD short for :)
Hi powerful Wall, Do u know what is WMD short for 🙂

Did you write WMD? I love Wikipedia for those pesky acronyms and initialisms. Search Wikipedia, and you will likely land on a disambiguation page like this: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/WMD. Which, in this case, tells me it might be short for: weapon of mass destruction or weighted mean in statistics or wiggle-match-dating or wiggle matching in carbon dating or Westmead railway station, Sydney, Australia, station code or Wymondham railway station, Wymondham, England, station code or World Malaria Day!

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Why is the mens room on the first floor of O’Neil now a family room.

Why is the mens room on the first floor of O'Neil now a family room. Now more people are going to use that. Can it be changed back?
Why is the mens room on the first floor of O’Neil now a family room. Now more people are going to use that. Can it be changed back?

Facilities Management designated approximately 50 single-occupant restrooms across campus as gender neutral. The single-occupant bathrooms at O’Neill’s first and third floors were among the bathrooms that received this new designation. The Library will submit your feedback.

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Answer Wall! It’s so good to be back!

Answer Wall! It's so good to be back! I was just abroad and feel so grateful to have the resources the B.C. Libraries offer back at my disposal. Truly a privilege!
Answer Wall! It’s so good to be back! I was just abroad and feel so grateful to have the resources the B.C. Libraries offer back at my disposal. Truly a privilege!

It’s wonderful to have you back! We don’t like to be left behind when you travel, so do know that many of our resources are available across the globe. Go in through the library homepage (library.bc.edu), and you should be able to access our ejournals, eBooks, and databases. Reference help is also available by email, phone and 24/7 chat at libguides.bc.edu/ask-a-librarian.

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How to start my own religion?

How to start my own religion?
How to start my own religion?

All you have to do is believe you’ve found The Truth. Oh, do you want other people to follow it? In that case, you have to believe utterly in the truth, have sufficient charisma that a few stalwarts begin to support you, and your message, values, and practices have to appeal to enough people that you gain a significant number of followers. If you want your religion to last beyond your own lifetime, that’s when it gets really tricky: you’ll need some sacred texts and/or objects, ritual language and practices, and an inner core of trusted believers to carry the torch beyond your demise. For more info, read Max Weber On Charisma & Institution Building (O’Neill Library HM131 .W38).

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how do I become better at being there for others?

how do I become better at being there for others?
how do I become better at being there for others?

Being there for others requires knowing when someone wants you there. It is easy to help people who ask for help, so be alert to what people aren’t saying. It’s okay to ask questions as long as you don’t pry (okay, if they seem distressed maybe pry a little). Alternatively, if you know someone needs help and you aren’t there for them, ask yourself why- pry a little into yourself. Understanding what someone really needs and overcoming your reasons for not helping will go a long way in being there for others.

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How do I find a boyfriend?

How do I find a boyfriend?
How do I find a boyfriend?

Am I wrong in thinking humans find boyfriends under cabbage leaves? This is what my parents told me. Perhaps there are many potential boyfriends *not* under cabbage leaves. I should think finding them would be something like finding friends: speak to a variety, and when you find common interests, let more conversations follow. Keep in mind, however, that I am a Wall, and Walls might not act quite like humans.

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How do I know if someone is going to make a good roommate?

How do I know if someone is going to make a good roommate?
How do I know if someone is going to make a good roommate?

Rather than trying to find a good roommate, think about whether they are a compatible roommate for you. Consider your personality and what you want in a roommate and then have a candid conversation with your potential roommate. Be open as part of that process. It can be tempting to focus on the other person as the root of any conflict, but try to acknowledge how your future roommate will see your habits and actions as well. If you find someone that you can have this sort of honest conversation with, I think you’ll find you’re on the right path to a successful roommate relationship.

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Answer Wall, how can I hook up a boy that I only met once?

Answer Wall, how can I hook up a boy that I only met once?
Answer Wall, how can I hook up a boy that I only met once?

My understanding is that hookups can happen with people someone knows well or with people they just met. There doesn’t seem to be a social protocol around this issue. So, you should wait until YOU are comfortable approaching him about having a hookup. Then it’s up to him to tell you whether or not HE is comfortable. The key is for both of you to wait until you are both comfortable and not under the influence of substances or external pressures.

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Wall, I don’t want to work at an investment bank, I just want to dance!

Wall, I don't want to work at an investment bank, I just want to dance!
Wall, I don’t want to work at an investment bank, I just want to dance!

There is no need to work in an investment bank if you don’t want to! You should talk to the BC Career Center (bit.ly/BC-career). They can help you to figure out a career path that will let you use your passions. In the meantime, you should also consider joining one of BC’s many dance-related student organizations (bit.ly/BCStudentOrg).

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How do I get smaller toes?

How do I get smaller toes?
How do I get smaller toes?

Sorry to say that you can’t make your toes smaller. And please don’t try to. People have crippled themselves trying to make their toes and feet smaller. Give your toes lots of room and enjoy their glorious shape. If anyone makes fun of your toes, you have my permission to give them a (gentle) kick.

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Who in all of history has most acutely felt Woe?

Who in all of history has most acutely felt Woe?
Who in all of history has most acutely felt Woe?

I often turn to the OED when I’m curious about the history of a word like “woe” (bit.ly/OED-woe – sign-in required). It’s quite an old word, dating at least back to bronze age proto-Iranian, and appears independently in non-Indo-European languages as well, suggesting its derivation is onomatopoetic, that is, it’s based on the sound of human expressions of sadness & grief. The Yiddish form (“Weh,” as in “Oy Weh!”) probably has more currency now than the English “Woe,” which is a little archaic. In recent history, Jews have good reason to be standouts in acute woe, and yet they’re also standouts in expressions of humor. It’s a mystery. Unfortunately, humankind seems to distribute woe generously, so there is no one group or person who can claim to be the most woeful in all of history.

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Why are parking permits so expensive?!? There is no way I could afford one.

Why are parking permits so expensive?!? There is no way I could afford one.
Why are parking permits so expensive?!? There is no way I could afford one.

According to the Wall’s friends at Parking and Transportation, it’s mostly two things. The first is lack of space on campus, which creates a lot more demand than supply. The second is more subtle: prices are partly high to encourage people who can to use other ways to get to campus, like the campus bus system, public transit, bikes, or feet–that makes for a greener campus, a healthier community…but it also helps with the first issue. The walls at T & P are sympathetic, as is this Wall.

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Can I work here? (e.g. a position where I am in charge of answering Q’s on this wall?)

Can I work here? (e.g. a position where I am in charge of answering Q’s on this wall?)
Can I work here? (e.g. a position where I am in charge of answering Q’s on this wall?)

If you aspire to do this type of work – and who wouldn’t – perhaps you would like to look into a career in libraries. Reference Librarians specialize in being prepared to answer any questions that come at them, and the excitement of never knowing what you’ll need to research (and learn) next is real.